Antonia Zerbisias blames everything on Harper and deranged Men

The Zerb is at it again over at the Trawna Red Star and has some of her usual bevy of Marxist supporters lining up to castigate all males and try to suggest shared parenting is a conspiracy of the religious right, men are too abusive to have shared custody etc. It's the same old BS. The Zerb is a bitter and extreme Marxist Feminist who rages on about her plight while denigrating all males and any one not in keeping with her own very askew view of the universe.

I left the  below comment among others on the site.  To the left you can view her gift for the written word as a columnist and blogger for the Toronto Star.

I have read, digested, fermented and comprehended your rant for today. I guess there are extreme groups on both sides of the gender war but you most certainly comprise leadership of a very bitter feminist, very far left extreme.You rely on blogs by retired Grandmothers for your info. She did move left and she is a kindly grandmother just afraid of phantom religiosity as you are. 

You have supporters who are bitter over the hill male feminists who use the same cherry picked disingenuous forms of discourse.  How can you ever expect respect as a person of credible insight by writing in such a manner.  The joint custody you speak of is a legal fiction. Over 90% of physical custody in Canada goes to moms. Eight percent to dads. 

Some of your supporters are very misinformed on the Australian reviews. The main report was completed as follows: It appears common sense may prevail in Australia given the Australian Institute of Family Studies (AIFS) have researched and found some non-partisan, non-ideological factors in favour of shared parenting. They have indicated they have found no correlation between violence and shared parenting, there has been a 22% reduction in court cases, and the practice of shared parenting is widely supported. The review, spread over two years involved 28,000 people, including 15,000 parents and  for most people it worked well.  It shows 80 per cent of parents are co-operating. 

The Zerb, in the picture at right,  doesn't do women any favours with her rants. She is a self styled victim oriented feminist who lets her emotions run rampant over logic, fairness, good research and most of all common sense. Remember the old stereotype of women being too emotional to hold down certain occupations. This person does that no favours. The bromide, however, is just that in the same way men are too violent to share custody of children.  It is way past time to move past these phony cliches and work cooperatively toward children's best interests which includes two parents in their lives after divorce just as it was before hand.

Much of what she has stated is cherry picked so you go away with a wrong impression such as joint custody. 

 She states:

"It should come as no surprise that the more extreme elements of the "Men's Rights" movement are big fans of Prime Minister Stephen Harper."

Not necessarily AZ. Harper's party is supposed to be the party of family values but they have not yet done anything dealing with reform of the Divorce act. It has been left to one member to sponsor a bill that their Justice Minister, Nicholson, says does not have his support.  The only party leader who has stated in writing he supports shared Parenting is Iggy  in one of his books. Iggy, however, has changed his tune on torture which he supported so he could change his mind on shared parenting.

After all, the more fanatical Men's Rights Activists (MRAs) – those who keep angry blogs, send me vicious emails, denigrate "radical feminists," and act as if women get a better deal in life – have much in common with the TheoCons in Harper's caucus and inner circle.

Its clear the Zerb is not having a good day while writing this but you will notice the anti-Harper crowd throw logic to the wind when they rant on. Everything becomes Harper's fault, including global warming, and they often forget what it was they were arguing against to start with.

Which would explain why Pastor Maurice Vellacott of Saskatoon-Wanuskewin, past chair of the Pro-Life Caucus, proponent of spurious research on women's health, creationist and agitator against same-sex rights, could get away with introducing Bill C-422, which would amend the Divorce Act to automatically award, regardless of history, "equal parenting" to warring couples.

Note the ad hominem attacks on the man sponsoring the bill. Rather than deal with the substance of the legislation attack the person to see if anything sticks.  Its the same approach with Harper. Sorry Zerby there is no automatic awarding of children. Shared Parenting in C-422 has a rebuttal presumption for "fit" parents. If allegations are made they will be investigated and the judge will decide. We will also try to get in place sanctions for those who make false allegations.

Note that, just because Harper's prorogation of Parliament killed 37 bills midstream, the private members' bills didn't die. They live on until they are passed – just as Conservative MP Candy Hoeppner's bill to scrap the long gun registry did last fall – or until they are voted off the island. MRAs love Vellacott's bill because, if they're as seriously deranged as some seem to be, they can continue to exercise control over their ex-wives and children.

She is really messed up probably by recent attacks on her in the blogosphere, this one included, over her idiotic Tweet above and is  probably causing her lack of sleep.  Hopefully she is not a mother but I do pity her partner if she still has one. These rants are clearly causing her some emotional grief. She is resorting to some "hot button" words like "seriously deranged" but she must not be looking into the mirror. Its appropriately amusing someone like this actually can get paid by Canada's largest circulation daily for this utter nonsense.

You opine "...which would amend the Divorce Act to automatically award, regardless of history, "equal parenting" to warring couples."

You have done your usual emotional over logic analysis of PMB C-422 by attacking the bill's sponsor without actually understanding the legislation.  The bill proposes no such thing. There is a rebuttal presumption for "fit" parents. If someone is found through thorough investigation to be unfit the judge will rule accordingly. The unfit parent could be of either gender.

 For the rest you can go to the link below:

http://www.thestar.com/living/article/759534--men-s-rights-activists-drive-harper-s-policies#article

For a rebuttal on her references to  The Interim go here:

http://www.theinterim.com/soconvivium/those-big-bad-anti-women-tories/

In Canada “The Big Pink Machine” makes eunuchs of men and promotes Misandry

We men are socialized to be protectors of our wives, sisters, moms, children and freedom. When thrust into the position of defendant in Divorce (75% initiated by the wife) we suffer a great deal of dissonance and confusion. The system is set up and designed as a far reaching ecosystem to support females and marginalize men, particularly fathers, who become financial drones for the ex and nanny state. Even at that men do not consider themselves victims. It is anathema to masculinity. 

The Big Pink Machine sets in motion a series of events designed to wear a man down so that many end up destroyed emotionally and kill themselves. In Canada upwards of eight men a day die by their own hand, 3X's more than women. It is not rocket science why. Others are driven to desperation and take the lives of their ex's and sometimes children. Even at that the single mom is the most likely to kill or harm their children in the USA, OZ and in Canada. I make the latter assertion despite what the feminist Stats Canada people come up with. They will not separate out biological fathers from other males associated with mom. When Australia did this it became clear mom and her boyfriend were the most likely killers and abusers of children. In the U.S. it is very clear.
 

I could write a book on this Big Pink machine and perhaps will at some point but I would want to direct you to one man who is fighting back in OZ. I hope he succeeds. http://fathersmensrights.blogspot.com/2010/02/in-oz-dad-launches-criminal-charges.html

If he does this will open the floodgates in Western countries based on English Common law. A recent example in Ontario is the private charge against Julian Fantino, the Ontario Police Commissioner. If we clog the courts with private charges the Politicians and Judiciary will not be able to ignore false allegations and perjury in Family Law. It is both the right thing to do and a form of civil disobedience that complies with our system of laws.

Who is the Big Pink Machine you ask? It is largely built from your tax dollars starting with Status of Women Canada at the federal level. This organization is staffed with strident and somewhat paranoid professional feminists. (3^rd wave feminism is itself a mass form of ideology, delusion and paranoia and posits women are Victims and are controlled, coerced and abused by the mystic Patriarchy). That is all you men. You are responsible for women not fulfilling their true goals or rising to the top wherever that may be. You are responsible they do not have 50% of the Parliamentary seats. In other words they are victimized like children and need the Nanny state to elevate their status in one form or another. Children can be victims and so logically 3^rd wave feminists are children in adult bodies. Equalist feminists, on the other hand, wherever they are, believe in gender equality and are a different tribe entirely. Their voices have been stifled by the cacophony of whining from the Victim Feminists. Rather than merit, quotas are needed and even if most women CHOOSE not to run in the blood sport of politics eunuchs in those parties must affirm by appointment females because they deserve it. You will find most eunuchs on the left of the political spectrum. Jack Layton is probably Canada's best example and Iggy the Liberal leader a close 2^nd. One of the largest populations of these creatures work the benches of Canada's Family Law and award custody to Mom's in a 9-1 ratio. If any other overt discrimination occurred to a visible minority or women, or the handicapped it would provoke outrage. Because it is done to men it does not matter. We do not have the organized political influence and cohesiveness necessary to get the right people convinced change is desired and men are quite capable of nurturing children. I did it for 10 years as a stay-at-home dad. It is a myth that needs dispelling.


There are Provincial Government equivalents in each Province collectively pumping billions of dollars solely for the benefit of one gender. Much of that is turned into propaganda dispensed at all levels, in Academia, through research grants to feminists or pro-feminist sycophants at Universities like Peter Jaffe at UWO and Nicholas Bala at Queens, Walter Dekeseredy and Molly Dragiewicz at the University of Ontario Institute of Technology and many others who receive collectively millions of dollars in grants to do research that supports their myths. There is an incestuous community of these disciples who produce only studies that conform to their preconceived ideology. Not very good science, however, comes out of the work. When Jaffe is doing studies of females at DV shelters he never asks, or if he does, he never published the information on female rates of violence on their male partners. He publishes only the male violence on the female. That's not science its propaganda.

The heartbeat of Victim Feminism (VF) is the local DV shelter which is the Mosque or Temple equivalent of the ideology (which resembles a religion). Islam and VF have much in common and interestingly enough many VF's take up Islamic causes despite it being the most patriarchal religion in the universe. (The FEMLoon Antonia Zerbisiasis at the Toronto Red Star newspaper is but one of many). I did say the ideology resembles religion and is somewhat delusional. The women in these temples of male oppression are the martyrs to the cause. There are 569 single gender only DV shelters in Canada at this writing and not one tax supported shelter for men despite the emotional, financial, psychological and physical battering many get to the point of killing themselves at 3X's the rate of women described earlier. In this little discussion for today I won't go into the relative parity of DV between genders but all the stats you ever wanted exist in these blogs supported by massive studies and our very own Stats Canada which is hard to believe given their feminist bias manifested in areas defined earlier.

Domestic Violence is a serious issue but as long as it is played as a single gender issue it will ignore 50% of the participants and in so doing also hurts women.  Did I mention Lesbian violence is much higher than heterosexual abusiveness. Interesting isn't it why these scholars avoid this issue like the plague.

The recent upset with Kennedy's Senate seat in MA was, in part, because many independent males went for the Republican candidate as they saw the feminist candidate Coakley was an elitist. More men need to see through the veil of Pinkilicious policies by the Liberals and dippers. The Pink Book III produced by the federal Liberals is simply a book of misandry.


Some day men will see they do have block political power if only they visualize what is happening to their gender (not at the fat cat level but down here with us regular folk) and that day will scare the hell out of every feminist and eunuch politician in Canada. The judiciary will fall into line shortly thereafter. Currently women have more political power because the feminists take our hard-earned tax money and have turned it into a hateful gender war. The MSM and all media generators from TV, movies, to the printed page not too mention the above Academics reinforce stereotypes. Most dads/men portrayed on TV in series or commercials are bumbling idiots yet it is men mostly that invented everything useful in existence or put us on the moon. 

It will change but we must be patient. It is either patience or revolution. The latter is not a current option

© Michael J. Murphy 2010 


The following video is USA based but the principles apply readily even if the stats are slightly different.  In Canada sole custody goes to mom in 90% of cases and  dads about 8%. 

In OZ ~ Dad launches 'criminal' charges against ex-wife

The man has brought private criminal charges against his ex. I hope he is successful as it will open a floodgate and once that happens the legal system will have to take the issue seriously. Its only through this will we find out who the lawyers, DV shelters and social workers are who offer this advice to make false allegations of abuse and then we can get sanctions against them or have them fired or sued civilly.  They do it so cavalierly without any notion of the criminal behaviour they perform and the ruined lives of the target parent and affected children.

If we clog the courts with private charges the Politicians and Judiciary will not be able to ignore false allegations and perjury in Family Law. It is both the right thing to do and a form of civil disobedience that complies with our system of laws. MJM

• Laurie Nowell
• From: Sunday Herald Sun
• January 24, 2010 12:00AM

A MELBOURNE man is bringing a historic private criminal prosecution against his ex-wife accusing her of perjury, assault and making a threat to kill. 

The legal action, believed to be a first for Victoria, will set a controversial precedent and could open the floodgates to similar cases.

"Bill", whose identity cannot be revealed for legal reasons, is alleging his wife deliberately lied when she made allegations that he had sexually abused their children.

His affidavit was accepted by the Melbourne Magistrates' Court last week, a hearing date has been set for next month and a summons was due to be served on Friday.

The case stems from a criminal trial during which Bill spent two years fighting charges based on his wife's allegations.

He was eventually acquitted, but the ordeal cost him his job, his home and about $450,000 in lost income and legal costs. The case is also based on similar accusations of sexual abuse of their children made by the ex-wife during a bitter Family Court battle.

The Family Court judge found Bill's ex-wife to be violent, untruthful, lacking moral values and responsible for the psychological and emotional abuse of her children -but still gave her custody of the two girls, now aged 9 and 11, because they had become estranged from their father.

By contrast, Bill was found to have shown "laudable forbearance in the face of the most challenging circumstances".

Australian Bureau of Statistics figures show about 2.5 million Australians are denied access to family because of family law proceedings, and about 680,000 fathers see their children as little as once a year.

ABS figures also show 700,000 children have no meaningful contact with one of their non-custodial parents -- mostly fathers.

Bill said yesterday he was bringing the case because he felt betrayed by the justice system.
"The Family Court have cut me off from my children effectively because of false evidence brought by my wife," Bill said.

"In 2005, she went to the police and made the allegations and then prepared the children on what they should say. The result was my kids were taken away from me.

"I proved my own innocence and that she had lied on both occasions - in the criminal trial and in the Family Court matter.

"My life with my kids was destroyed. If people can lie in court and hurt others by their utterances and statements, what is the point of the law?"

The case will intensify the current national debate over the operation of the Family Court and the principle of shared parenting, which is under attack by women's groups and is being reviewed by the Rudd Government.
Bill's ex-wife is facing charges of perjury, assault and making a threat to kill.

The charges allege that she knowingly and wilfully made 10 pages of false statements to police in September 2005 and perjured herself by repeating the allegations in a sworn affidavit during a Family Court hearing in 2008.

She is also accused of threatening to kill Bill in 2004 and of assaulting him with chopsticks and fingernails in 2000.

Law Institute of Victoria chief executive Michael Brett Young said private criminal prosecutions were rare, but not unheard of.

"This man will have to prove his case, like anyone else, in the criminal courts," Mr Young said.

 http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/dad-launches-criminal-charges-against-ex-wife/story-e6frf7jo-1225822905604

In OZ ~ 'No excuse' for family law shake-up

It appears common sense may prevail in Australia given the Australian Institute of Family Studies (AIFS) have researched and found some non-partisan, non-ideological factors in favour of shared parenting. They have indicated they have found no correlation between violence and shared parenting, there has been a 22% reduction in court cases, and the practice of shared parenting is widely supported. 

The review, spread over two years involved 28,000 people, including 15,000 parents and  for most people it worked well.  It shows 80 per cent of parents are co-operating.

The AIFS is a world renowned organization whose role is to give non-partisan, non ideological advice on family matters.  We need an equivalent one in Canada to get us out of the Feminist dominated rhetoric of men being abusers and unsafe to share parenting. The trouble may arise in the legislature where Australia has a socialist bleeding heart government in power who typically bow to the feminist lobby within their ranks for fear of being cast as an abuser and of course whatever voting power they have.

Chisholm the ex judge appears to be a chivalrous drone and thinks violence or at least its propensity is worthy of spending more money.  The proportion of violence relative to the population of married couples and even those divorcing is minuscule but these useful idiots of the feminists give it much greater credence that it deserves. 

In Canada out of a million couples (2 million people) 999,997.7  females do not kill their male spouse and 999,992 males to not kill their female spouse. Do we make laws for the 999,990 plus people who are not a problem or the tiny fraction who present perplexities to the system, and in turn, penalize the majority.  If we make laws focusing on the tiny minority very few people could drive, get married, have children,  find a decent job, or live any kind of high quality life free of nanny state intervention.  It is one thing to take away points on a drivers license for using a cell phone or texting while operating the vehicle, quite another to deny a parent from legal involvement and maximum time with their genetic progeny. There can be nothing more personal or devastating to a rational human to be denied this right because of gender.


In any assessment, if violence is suspected or alleged, an investigation should occur. If the allegation is false the instigator should be charged criminally and primary custody of the children given to the parent who was falsely accused.  In Australia as in the USA the person most likely to kill or harm the child is the single mom, either alone or in concert with a boyfriend/new partner.MJM

By Sabra Lane for AM

Posted Sat Jan 30, 2010 11:25am AEDT
Updated Sat Jan 30, 2010 11:59am AEDT

A Family Studies Institute report found a drop in the number of cases going to court. (stock.xchng: Asif Akbar)

• Audio: Opposition cautions against Family law changes (AM)

The Federal Opposition has warned the Government against making changes to family law that alter the principle of giving children the right to a meaningful relationship with both parents in the case of divorce or separation.

In 2006, the Howard government introduced major changes to Australia's family law system, putting an emphasis on shared responsibility for separating parents.

This week, three reports were released on how the laws were working. The reviews were conducted by the Australian Institute of Family studies, the Family Law council and former judge, Professor Richard Chisholm.
The Family Studies Institute found a 22 per cent drop in the number of cases going to court.


But Professor Chisholm found many people wrongly believe the changes mean that separated fathers were automatically entitled to 50-50 custody of their kids.

The professor says the laws are confusing and troublesome, but Shadow Attorney-General George Brandis disagrees.

"The report by Professor Chisholm does take a fairly tendentious view of the operation of the 2006 reform," he said.


The Government says it is considering an information campaign to clear up misunderstanding, but Senator Brandis says he gives more weight to the report published by the Australian Institute of Family Studies.
"What the Australian Institute of Family Studies found was that the principle of shared parental responsibility is widely supported; that in general the 2006 reforms have worked well," he said.

"The Australian Institute of Family Studies found ... 'There is no evidence to suggest that family violence and highly conflictual inter-parental relationships are any greater in children with shared care time than for children with other care time arrangements'.

"So there seems to be something of a difference of emphasis, if not a conflict, between Professor Chisholm and Australian Institute of Family Studies."

Senator Brandis says the release of the reports does not justify a change in direction for family law.

"[They] should not be used by the Government as a pretext or an excuse to walk away from the principle that every child has a right to a meaningful relationship with both parents on the occasion of family breakdown, while always maintaining, as has never been in doubt, the paramount interests of the child as the first consideration."

The reviews were handed down nearly 12 months after four-year-old Darcey Freeman was allegedly thrown off Melbourne's West Gate Bridge by her father.

Professor Chisholm has recommended every case before the Family Court should automatically be assessed for violence risks and that the court be given adequate resources to do the job.

The chief justice of the family court, Justice Diana Bryant, issued a statement welcoming that finding.

The Attorney General's office was asked about the recommendation for resources. A spokesman for Robert McClelland says the court already receives $2 billion in Commonwealth funding, but that it will be considered.

http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2010/01/30/2805599.htm?section=australia

Marriage breakups, family feuds can leave older generation estranged from grandkids

This is a case of Parental Alienation but shows its impact on Grandparents. Many family members are affected including the target parent, his brothers and sisters and parents plus other extended family depending on the age of siblings. The first comment following the article sums the issue up succinctly and poignantly.MJM

 

 

 

By Jim Gibson, Canwest News Service

 

Grandparents will wait out the estrangement, hoping it will get better on its own, something Brooks has seen happen occasionally in her 23 years with the society.

Photograph by: Photos.com, canada.com

Once again, Christmas came and went without Phyllis Coutts seeing two of her nine grandchildren.

It's a situation shared by unknown numbers of grandparents, often the collateral damage in marriage breakups and family feuds.


It's been over a decade since Coutts last saw the children from her son's broken marriage. Photos from their early grade-school years still line her home, along with updated ones of their cousins.


By now, her grandson would be well into his teens, and his sister, in her early 20s. They live only a neighbourhood or two away, according to Coutts, who lives in Victoria.


"I would love to see them," the 78-year-old says.


The question hangs in the air: Why hasn't she?


"I never go where I'm not wanted," Coutts says.


Her response is not uncommon, according to those who deal with estranged grandparents.


Weighted down by hurt and bitterness, these situations become entrenched, according to Barb Whittington, a University of Victoria social work professor whose research and counselling focuses on grandparents.


Grandparents worry that anything they might do to see the grandchildren could make a bad situation worse.

"They don't want to cause trouble," says Joan Brooks, the great-grandmother who heads the Ontario-based support group, Grandparents Requesting Access and Dignity (GRAND) Society.


Grandparents will wait out the estrangement, hoping it will get better on its own, something Brooks has seen happen occasionally in her 23 years with the society.


Many grandparents blame themselves for what happened.


People such as Whittington, Brooks, and family counsellor Jayne Weatherbe hear heartbreaking tales of estrangement.


"The cruellest thing is when the grandparent has lost a son or daughter, and access is denied them to the grandchild," Brooks says.


Some grandparents even drive to their grandchildren's schools, just to catch a glimpse, Whittington says.

And it's not always a former in-law; even a grandparent's own son or daughter could be denying access to the child, according to Weatherbe.


"It's a different world now," Weatherbe says, alluding to changes in parenting styles. Once-acceptable corporal punishment has given way to timeouts. Today's parents often hold firmer beliefs on such issues as diet, Weatherbe says.


"It's their life. It's their choice. You just suck it up and be supportive of (the parent)," Brooks says. Further, she advises, "Stay in the grandparent role; if they ask for advice, give it. Otherwise, stay quiet."

Both Brooks and Whittington agree that the grandparent seeking visitation might well have to take the first step.

Try a phone call, Whittington says, something along the lines of, "I'd like to talk to you, the children, or both."

Brooks recommends a letter to the child's parent, stressing a willingness to see the grandchild on the parent's terms and conditions. She also suggests writing, "If I said or did something, please give me a chance to correct it."


If sending a letter, always write two drafts, Whittington adds. Edit out any traces of bitterness.


One alternative is to find an intermediary in the community whom the estranged person might trust, "not someone who will just take your side," Whittington says.


Groups such as Brooks's are helpful, but not available in many communities.


There are non-profit organizations that counsel grandparents. Often, however, groups such as Parents Support Service and Families in Transition deal with situations far more complex than just grandparent visitations.


"People often do call us as a place to start," Parent Support Services Society of B.C. executive director Carol Ross says from Vancouver. After some conversation, callers are referred to such resources as social services or the soon-to-be discontinued LawLine.


Many of Brooks's generation prefer to talk their way to a settlement rather than use the courts.


Yet it's not uncommon for a separation agreement to allow a grandparent access, according to family lawyer


Trudi Brown. She cites, for example, a parent whose work keeps him away for long stretches. Under an agreement, grandparents could piggyback on the absent parent's access time.


Grandparents can apply for access under the provincial Family Relations Act, Brown adds, either doing it themselves or hiring a lawyer. However, today's court schedules can leave such a case lingering for months before being heard, she says.


Ultimately, the court decides on what is best for the child.


Some grandparents assume older children just don't want to see them, or they would do so on their own, according to Whittington.


What they often don't understand is that teens, in particular, are so absorbed in their own world, they don't readily think of others.


Conversely, the child might assume a grandparent isn't interested. Whittington cites one grandmother who sent the kids birthday and Christmas presents by taxi, only to have their mother return them the same way.

"The kids never knew the grandmother was trying," Whittington says.


One of Whittington's favourite reconciliation stories involves Canada's national game.


Just to see their grandson, the paternal grandparents would go to his hockey games, sitting on the opposite side of the arena from the estranged former daughter-in-law's family. The young player finally had enough, complaining he was getting whiplash from looking from side to side.


"I need you all on one side," he told them. They moved closer and closer until, eventually, they sat together, Whittington says.


Victoria Times Colonist
jgibson@tc.canwest.com

© Copyright (c) Canwest News Service

Comments:

M. Saunter

January 31, 2010 - 10:47 AM

 Marriage Breakup and generations, grandparents and grandchildren, and other cousins and aunts and uncles are left out of the life of the child.  I had to go to Court in Alberta for access and got it.  As a mother of five, I wanted access to my grandson as the daughter-in-law refused with always saying 'later'.  She was totally unreasonable and refused any of the dad's family to see the young boy.

The mom made many false accusations toward me in the Court Room and the judge told her she was a very angry woman and this child was of mixed heritage and should know both sides of the family; therefore, I got access.

The mother still tells the child the following:   he has no dad,  I am only his grandmother only when he is with me, but not other times, mom refuses to allow the child to take home presents or even a piece of paper or a candy, and  appears to be now saying at 11 the child is telling me all the bad things that went on in the divorce, and now that I'm controlling their life and the mom needs to get my approval on his life.  This is extremely confusing, upsetting and horrible for my grandson as he is now blaming me for controlling his mom!

All  are false allegations from the mom provoking alienation from grandson to dad's family.  He told his uncles he only needed to see them once or twice a year.  The mom has him lie as we wanted to watch him play soccer and it is only for his mom and him only.  We said we wanted to be his fans and cheer for him!

My grandson cries as the hatred she is creating in this beautiful child is causing emotional problems for my 11-old-precious grandson.  He said to me, how do I know you are not telling lies!  Do I show the Court Order where the rules are laid out that the mom is to drive him here for visits as the mom said I am controlling her life?

It takes about 60 minutes for my grnadson to settle in and he starts closing down about 60 before leaving.  He said he wants to keep coming; the mom told my daughter the child now makes his own decisions.  I asked him what decision he makes and he said his mom makes all his decisions as he was unaware of the mom's conversation prior.

Alienation stories usually about the paternal parent must stop in Canada!  False allegations against fathers and grandparents must stop in Canada!

Please Judges, listen and please start prosecuting the false allegations and lies against dads and grandparents in the Court Room.  If alienation continues after any Court Orders it should cost free to bring these issues back into the Courts for the benefit and best interests of the child as growing up with emotional hate imprinted into the minds and hearts of children used as prawns should be stopped in Canada.

My grandson should have access, visits to and from, phone calls to and from, his father's side of the family in the same manner that he has access and freedom from the mom's family and friends.  The paternal side has been treated with lies, hatred and alienation,  rather than a loving family with compassion and kindness and fellowship with the child within a family.

Thank you for allowing me to share our pain of not knowing any other info other than the few hours of visits in which the child is brow-beaten before and after the visit as to what we said and did and what he should not say!  Sad!

Margaret Saunter, Edmonton, Alberta,
PS Please keep reporting family alienation; it is child cruelty!

http://www.vancouversun.com/life/Marriage+breakups+family+feuds+leave+older+generation+estranged+from+grandkids/2499100/story.html

Female sexual abusers not as rare as widely believed

Female abuse is far more widespread than shows in the MSM and I am of the opinion is often suppressed as it causes dissonance to the chivalrous drones and victim oriented feminists (3rd wave tribe) out there who don't want to have to deal with it. Gosh she is a pervert they say, it must be an aberration and then sweep it under the carpet. There are a great many abusers who have lost custody of their children, take on a secret identity on the internet and then blame men and judges for all their problems while demonstrating the very traits that lost them custody. Some have identifiable mental health disorders.They are a vile lot unfit to be parents.

Its typically the most egregious cases that get prosecuted and in the news.  Click the link to the Female Sexual Abuse Blog in the left sidebar to get info on those females involved in the justice system and their crimes who make it into the MSM.


Here is the sweet young thing Elizabeth Lambert but if you watch the video following she puts most men to shame with her bevy of dirty tricks.  She may not be a sexual abuser but she can dish out physical abuse of a very nasty and sneaky kind that has few equals.

MJM

Sarah Sacheli, Canwest News Service  Published: Friday, January 29, 2010

WINDSOR, Ont. -- She gave him life and was the only parent he ever knew. In the way she snapped photos of him sleeping and playing happily, she was like any other adoring mother. But she also committed unspeakable acts to his little body, turning him into a human sex toy in her pornographic broadcasts.


The set of facts involving the Windsor-area mother who sexually abused her two-year-old son horrified both those involved in the case and those who'd only heard about it.


"Society expects the mother of a toddler would do everything in her power to make sure her child is protected from harm," said the judge who on Friday handed the 24-year-old woman a 3 1/2-year prison sentence.


He called her crimes "appalling" and "abhorrent."


While female sexual abusers are rare in the court system, those who deal with child sexual abuse know the woman is not unique. She may be the first Ontario woman to be jailed for making child pornography featuring her own offspring, but she's not the first mother to sexually abuse a child.


A national study released in 2005 shows that biological mothers were the perpetrators of sexual abuse in 5% of the substantiated cases investigated by child welfare authorities.


The instance is probably higher, since researchers are certain that many cases of child sexual abuse never come to light. "A lot of people have difficulty believing women are capable of sexually abusing children," said social worker Angela Hovey, whose doctoral thesis deals with a topic related to this theme.


Even victims of such abuse, looking back at it as adults, have a hard time talking about it.


In her past employment in federal prisons, she would ask inmates about any sexual abuse in their past. "Many men had been abused by women." The problem, she said, was "they often had more difficulty identifying it as abuse."


A U.S. report, entitled "Child Sexual Abuse -- The Predators," explains it this way. "Mothers generally have more intimate contact with their children, and the lines between maternal love and care and sexual abuse are not as clear-cut as they are for fathers."
Therefore, the report says, "Sexual abuse by mothers may remain undetected because it occurs at home and is either denied or never reported."


Hovey says it's hard to get accurate data on the prevalence of female sex offenders, much less women who abuse their own children. The best information, she believes, may come from victims themselves.




A 2003 U.S. study questioned a random sample of adults to determine the prevalence of childhood sexual abuse. It found that of the 32% of females and 14% of males who identified themselves as victims, 9% of women and 39% of men said they had been abused by at least one female.


While figures are usually inflated, studies of male sex offenders show 45% to 50% were themselves victims of sexual abuse. Hovey is researching counselling practices for women survivors of sexual abuse to see if they should be asked if they've ever in turn abused anyone. She saw it in her private practice -- women sexually abusing children.


"Do I think it happens a lot more than we hear about? Absolutely," said Bill Bevan, executive director of the Windsor-Essex Children's Aid Society -- which sees two or three such cases each year.


Most don't end up in prosecutions because the young victims aren't capable of testifying. "It could be a teacher. It could be a sister. It could be a babysitter. It could be a mother with her child."


Society kids that teenage boys abused by women are somehow "lucky" and females, by nature, are too nurturing to commit such an offence. In any case of child sexual abuse, there's "kind of gender bias" that automatically excludes women from suspicion, Bevan said.
"It's not the first place you look. It's the father figure you look at first."


Canadians think of female sex offenders, and their minds automatically turn to Karla Homolka who, with her then husband, Paul Bernardo, abducted, sexually abused, tortured and murdered female victims, Bevan said.


"On the other end of the scale is where the female in the caring role takes in a partner who is abusing the child.... Some mothers might be kind of looking the other way."


Justice Kathryn Feldman, in a Jan. 18 Ontario Court of Appeal case, said the Internet is providing greater opportunity to produce and distribute images of child abuse.


"The victims are innocent children who become props in a perverted show, played out for an ever-wider audience not only of voyeurs but of perpetrators," Feldman said of a case involving a father who sexually abused his daughter and distributed the images over the Internet.


"The predominant offender in Internet child exploitation is males," said Windsor police Det. Jason Belanger. "They're out there, but if you do get a female offender, you're surprised."
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