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Musings and Sometimes Rants about the non-equal status of Fathers in Family Law and Parenting. Additionally periodic comparisons to the treatment of men compared to women in other areas including health care.
One thing is crystal clear on this site., They feel like they are oppressed by something. If it is someone with a union mentality then is fat cat corporations and if its a victim feminist it is patriarchal oppression. In the case of Dufresne he is a long standing victim feminist who gets off defending perceived victims and deriding his own gender and he has obviously got serious problems probably associated with major daddy issues. He is one of the most self loathing men (I assume he has a penis) I have come across.
What is transparent though with the rhetoric from the siege mentality of those on this site that 'its not about the best interests of children. Its about the best interest of victim feminists and their entitlements. I could do a fairly in depth psychological assessment of these commentators but I won't. Most appear to be ideologues with very entrenched notions and in many cases, especially Dufresne, its a little like extreme religious indoctrination. It totally consumes him.
Joined: Dec 24 2005
July 19, 2009 - 1:46pm
People concerned with women's and children's rights would do well to warn their MP of a private Bill designed by advocates of what they call a « presumptive equal parenting » upon divorce.
Bill C-422, fashioned by Conservative MPs Maurice Vellacott and Steven Blaney - with the support of Liberal MP Raymonde Folco, is a new version of Motion M-483, which died on the agenda during a previous session.
It is aimed at what the proponents are calling an "overall bias" favouring women in divorce and child custody law. (No mention is made of the available statistics as to whom actually does the parenting before separation and whom commits to doing it after it.) This private bill is really about enthroning male entitlement, ending child support and imposing paternal authority.
Ignoring the reality of domestic violence - the main reason for divorce today - and criteria such as parental skills and demonstrated commitment, features NOT equally shared in most divorcing couples*, this law "would make it mandatory for two parents who are divorcing to discuss with either a mediator or a judge how they would divide the time with the children," said Folco to a Laval newspaper, adding that "equal parenting means that 50 per cent of the time a child would be with one parent and 50 per cent with the other."
The lobby behind this one-size-fits-all fathers' rights bill is the "Canadian Equal Parenting Council," and includes the obnoxious Fathers for Justice organization of Batmen and Spidermen-garbed media darlings.
"Men in Canada need to quite literally start protecting themselves from the flawed family law system," an anonymous spokesman from Fathers for Justice said in a statement supportive of Bill C-422.
The Canadian Equal Parenting Council claims support from Liberal leader Michael Ignatieff, quoting a 2002 book where he called unspecified shared parenting legislative changes « sensible and overdue suggestions ».
As for the Bloc Québécois, F4J accuses it of favouring women. It rants, on its website: « It's time for Mr. Duceppe to step away from the dark side and stand behind equal parenting... »
Source : « Private bill for 'equal parenting' goes on Parliament's order ». Martin C. Barry, The Laval News, July 15, 2009.
Feminist critiques of « presumptive equal parenting » - such as that penned by Gatineau sociologist Denyse Côté in "La garde partagée: l'équité en question" (Éditions du remue-ménage, 2000, 202 p.) - can be found on various web sites, such as The Liz Library. This material amply documents that not all equal-custody claims are justified or respectful of the children's best interests. Most family court judges are aware of this, but the anti-feminist lobby goes on trying to force their hands, via conservative politicians.
For instance, The Ontario Women's Justice Network offers a detailed analysis of a good 2001 Supreme Court decision in the custody case between Kimberly Van de Perre and Theodore and Valerie Edwards, here.
Please remain aware of this issue, and don't let the patriarchalists pull the wool over your MP's eyes.
* In The Canadian Family in Crisis (2003), John Frederick Conway wrote : « ...the anti-feminist men's movement has won some victories but they have not been total... it failed to win the imposition of compulsory joint custody... joint custody must be assessed on a case-by-case basis and situations of marriage breakdown that include domestic violence, addictions to drugs and/or alcohol, and psychological abuse ought not to involve joint custody, co-parenting provisions. » This caveat gets short shrift in C-422.
Joined: Jul 25 2009
July 25, 2009 - 11:25am (new)
I want to impart some facts with respect to divorce in Canada, with some reference to other countries similarly predisposed to treating dads in a negative manner and to help you with your references and lack of citations.
Firstly not all divorces in Canada end due to Domestic Violence. This is an unfounded, non-scientific observation. In our country Intimate Partner Violence is pretty much equal. Here is a quote from Stats Can: "Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2005. An estimated 7% of women and 6% of men representing 653,000 women and 546,000 men in a current or previous spousal relationship encountered spousal violence during the five years up to and including 2004". http://www.statcan.gc.ca/Daily/English/050714/d050714a.htm
Domestic Violence is serious problem but it is not gender specific. It is a family problem that needs a new paradigm to resolve. You may wish to read Dr. Don Dutton's scientific observations here Normal 0 false false false EN-CA X-NONE X-NONE MicrosoftInternetExplorer4
Dr. Dutton, from UBC, is Canada's foremost researcher on this matter and is sought and cited the world over for his work.
You may also want to have a look at this link http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm which is REFERENCES EXAMINING ASSAULTS BY WOMEN ON THEIR SPOUSES OR MALE PARTNERS: AN ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY by Martin S. Fiebert , Department of Psychology California State University, Long Beach. This is the largest bibliography of its kind and current to May of this year.
In Canada 75% of all marriages are terminated unilaterally by the wife. Not because of DV but for a host of reasons. In the USA it is 66% and in OZ about 70%. My research shows part of the reason is the wife thinks there are greener pastures and that magical, mysterious long awaited prince charming is coming along to sweep her off her feet. This does not happen as second marriages and co-habitations end at a far greater rate than the first ones which combined run about 50% in Canada and the USA. Cohabitations have greater frailty and end in far greater numbers than do marriages.
Many studies show that children having both parents in their lives on an ongoing basis do far better on many social outcomes than if dad is marginalized to the standard 14% visitation of two weekends a month. Professor Edward Kruk's research at UBC shows children need a 40% contact with each parent to maintain a parent-child bond. Fourteen percent is not in a child's best interest. You can view the PDF summary of his study on Child Custody, Access and Parental Responsibility here: http://www.fira.ca/cms/documents/179/April7_Kruk_Summary.pdf
Dr. Kruk shows the legal system must be child focussed and take into account the many developmental needs of children. He also demonstrates a child-focused analysis of child custody determination contradicts your assertion of high conflict divorce as follows: " … even though the majority of contested cases of child custody, including high-conflict cases, do not involve the type of "intimate terrorism" necessitating the removal of a parent (as a routine parent) from a child's life via sole custody. Contrary to current practice and dominant socio-legal discourse, children are not shielded from post separation violence and abuse by means of sole custody."
Many studies show the positive social outcomes for children with active involvement by both parents and many show the negative outcomes for children in single parent homes. These are largely matriarchal homes. In Canada, according to Stats Can in 2004 custody went to the mother in about 90% of all cases whether contested or not. Your non-cited assertion of Fathers winning 55-70% of contested cases in this country is just plain not supported by any research. The number is very small at around 7%. Joint custody is the manner in which judges spread bread crumbs to dad by giving physical custody to the mom. About 8% to the dad in sole custody.
The 2004 table looks like this: total custody cases 31, 764, custody to dad 2,558, to the wife 14,309, joint 14,773. The rest were a small number to others not the mom or dad or not known.
We'll calculate a minuscule amount for cooperative shared/equal parenting which currently exists through agreement by very unselfish parents who do have the child's best interest at heart and works fine. My 11 year old, although not yet in a legal shared/equal parenting relationship, has no trouble with the transitions but it is important, where possible to ensure they keep the same friends and of course school.
I would recommend you do more research related to your articles. It will improve your credibility and I do suggest going beyond the Liz Library. It is the largest single compendium of male hatred on the internet and not overly scientific or unbiased.
The focus must be on the child. Unselfish parents with the best interest of the children in mind will be able to work this out. Several European countries have this in place with Belgium having one of the most emphatic mechanisms for children to stay in the lives of both parents. Interestingly this was brought into law by a Feminist Government Minister who wanted her husband to be equal. Isn't that what Feminism was about back in the good old days - equality.