We men are socialized to be protectors of our wives, sisters, moms, children and freedom. When thrust into the position of defendant in Divorce (75% initiated by the wife) we suffer a great deal of dissonance and confusion. The system is set up and designed as a far reaching ecosystem to support females and marginalize men, particularly fathers, who become financial drones for the ex and nanny state. Even at that men do not consider themselves victims. It is anathema to masculinity.
The Big Pink Machine sets in motion a series of events designed to wear a man down so that many end up destroyed emotionally and kill themselves. In Canada upwards of eight men a day die by their own hand, 3X's more than women. It is not rocket science why. Others are driven to desperation and take the lives of their ex's and sometimes children. Even at that the single mom is the most likely to kill or harm their children in the USA, OZ and in Canada. I make the latter assertion despite what the feminist Stats Canada people come up with. They will not separate out biological fathers from other males associated with mom. When Australia did this it became clear mom and her boyfriend were the most likely killers and abusers of children. In the U.S. it is very clear.
I could write a book on this Big Pink machine and perhaps will at some point but I would want to direct you to one man who is fighting back in OZ. I hope he succeeds. http://fathersmensrights.blogspot.com/2010/02/in-oz-dad-launches-criminal-charges.html
If he does this will open the floodgates in Western countries based on English Common law. A recent example in Ontario is the private charge against Julian Fantino, the Ontario Police Commissioner. If we clog the courts with private charges the Politicians and Judiciary will not be able to ignore false allegations and perjury in Family Law. It is both the right thing to do and a form of civil disobedience that complies with our system of laws.
Who is the Big Pink Machine you ask? It is largely built from your tax dollars starting with Status of Women Canada at the federal level. This organization is staffed with strident and somewhat paranoid professional feminists. (3rd wave feminism is itself a mass form of ideology, delusion and paranoia and posits women are Victims and are controlled, coerced and abused by the mystic Patriarchy). That is all you men. You are responsible for women not fulfilling their true goals or rising to the top wherever that may be. You are responsible they do not have 50% of the Parliamentary seats. In other words they are victimized like children and need the Nanny state to elevate their status in one form or another. Children can be victims and so logically 3rd wave feminists are children in adult bodies. Equalist feminists, on the other hand, wherever they are, believe in gender equality and are a different tribe entirely. Their voices have been stifled by the cacophony of whining from the Victim Feminists. Rather than merit, quotas are needed and even if most women CHOOSE not to run in the blood sport of politics eunuchs in those parties must affirm by appointment females because they deserve it. You will find most eunuchs on the left of the political spectrum. Jack Layton is probably Canada's best example and Iggy the Liberal leader a close 2nd. One of the largest populations of these creatures work the benches of Canada's Family Law and award custody to Mom's in a 9-1 ratio. If any other overt discrimination occurred to a visible minority or women, or the handicapped it would provoke outrage. Because it is done to men it does not matter. We do not have the organized political influence and cohesiveness necessary to get the right people convinced change is desired and men are quite capable of nurturing children. I did it for 10 years as a stay-at-home dad. It is a myth that needs dispelling.
There are Provincial Government equivalents in each Province collectively pumping billions of dollars solely for the benefit of one gender. Much of that is turned into propaganda dispensed at all levels, in Academia, through research grants to feminists or pro-feminist sycophants at Universities like Peter Jaffe at UWO and Nicholas Bala at Queens, Walter Dekeseredy and Molly Dragiewicz at the University of Ontario Institute of Technology and many others who receive collectively millions of dollars in grants to do research that supports their myths. There is an incestuous community of these disciples who produce only studies that conform to their preconceived ideology. Not very good science, however, comes out of the work. When Jaffe is doing studies of females at DV shelters he never asks, or if he does, he never published the information on female rates of violence on their male partners. He publishes only the male violence on the female. That's not science its propaganda.
The heartbeat of Victim Feminism (VF) is the local DV shelter which is the Mosque or Temple equivalent of the ideology (which resembles a religion). Islam and VF have much in common and interestingly enough many VF's take up Islamic causes despite it being the most patriarchal religion in the universe. (The FEMLoon Antonia Zerbisiasis at the Toronto Red Star newspaper is but one of many). I did say the ideology resembles religion and is somewhat delusional. The women in these temples of male oppression are the martyrs to the cause. There are 569 single gender only DV shelters in Canada at this writing and not one tax supported shelter for men despite the emotional, financial, psychological and physical battering many get to the point of killing themselves at 3X's the rate of women described earlier. In this little discussion for today I won't go into the relative parity of DV between genders but all the stats you ever wanted exist in these blogs supported by massive studies and our very own Stats Canada which is hard to believe given their feminist bias manifested in areas defined earlier.
Domestic Violence is a serious issue but as long as it is played as a single gender issue it will ignore 50% of the participants and in so doing also hurts women. Did I mention Lesbian violence is much higher than heterosexual abusiveness. Interesting isn't it why these scholars avoid this issue like the plague.
The recent upset with Kennedy's Senate seat in MA was, in part, because many independent males went for the Republican candidate as they saw the feminist candidate Coakley was an elitist. More men need to see through the veil of Pinkilicious policies by the Liberals and dippers. The Pink Book III produced by the federal Liberals is simply a book of misandry.
Some day men will see they do have block political power if only they visualize what is happening to their gender (not at the fat cat level but down here with us regular folk) and that day will scare the hell out of every feminist and eunuch politician in Canada. The judiciary will fall into line shortly thereafter. Currently women have more political power because the feminists take our hard-earned tax money and have turned it into a hateful gender war. The MSM and all media generators from TV, movies, to the printed page not too mention the above Academics reinforce stereotypes. Most dads/men portrayed on TV in series or commercials are bumbling idiots yet it is men mostly that invented everything useful in existence or put us on the moon.
It will change but we must be patient. It is either patience or revolution. The latter is not a current option
© Michael J. Murphy 2010
The following video is USA based but the principles apply readily even if the stats are slightly different. In Canada sole custody goes to mom in 90% of cases and dads about 8%.