I note you pick on men and boys as your examples. That is all well and good but we now live in an artificial matriarchy fueled by a noisy and vocal minority of feminist ideologues who receive copious quantities of tax payers money to fuel gender wars. We have a judiciary. legal, political, and scribbling class of either feminist ideologues or male eunuchs who cow tow to this mantra because of political correctness. The ideology goes thus: Women are perpetual victims of the patriarchy and men are abusers. Women benign - man oppressor. This self same ideology also must have you believe that women are merely children in adult bodies because their new patriarchs (as they need protection from the evils of men) is the nanny state. This is one version of Marxism.
Collectively women must unite behind this dogma so they can be "empowered". Do you see the irony in this statement. Empower yourself behind the protective shield of a new patriarch - big brother - the State.
This mantra has lead to unilateral divorce, 75% of which are initiated by Canadian women. Despite all of this women are more unhappy than they have been since the 70's and men are happier relatively speaking. In terms of maturity the ideology of victim feminism is an adolescent - maybe even a tween.
Chabon is trying to figure out how to be a man and a father. He is uncertain. He was raised by a single mother throughout his own teens and did not have a father as a role model. I am unclear if his dad was driven out of his life by a vindictive mom but that is pretty common these days as we watch the family disintegrate. We have eunuchs as judges who will throw a dad in jail, who is unemployed and cannot afford child support at the court ordered rate, but if mum denies access to dad they will do nothing. We have in each Province debtor collection agencies modeled on the Mafia (In Ontario it has the Oxy Moronic name of the Family Responsibility Office ala George Orwell) who will use draconian measures to get their pound of flesh including automatic jail time without trial. Debtor prisons live on in the 21st century and the 5th estate is blind to their existence as man=bad, woman=benign. Judges award custody to mum in a 9-1 ratio. Men are just plain incompetent - just ask your author Chabon.
We have been raising a generation or more of boys without real male role models because of the marginalization of dads. A boy has only a small chance of having a male teacher throughout his first 8 years of education. Chabon believes dads are error prone daily but we are not. He has an inbred inferiority complex, as do many men, because their dads were cast off by a very immature systemic breakdown of societal values. Those values are femininity good - masculinity evil. We need a paradigm shift.
I'm uncertain where your samples of the men living in parental basements come from or how wide spread it is but no man should get married and have children under the current system of treating men and dads like so much leftover lipstick gloss. He has a 50% chance (in marriage and co-habitation) of the wife walking out and in 75% of cases of this a unilateral delivery of divorce documents because she needs "empowering" again and she has lots of tax supported divorce industry people at her beck and call. Chris Bentley the Ontario AG, one of the political eunuchs in government under McQuinty just increased legal aid by $150,000,000.00, 70% of which is targeted at - you guessed it - females.
Any man who notes his ex is not interested in sex after 4-5 years (the average time frame) better start preparations for heart ache because she has emotionally moved away from you and is looking for Dr. Dreamy again.
...and a response with respect to another column as follows:
Canada is "the lucky country", according to David Naylor.
The soft-spoken University of Toronto president believes - despite its cold fronts, high taxes and maddening federal structure - Canada has the worst system of government, except for all the others.
Read more: http://network.nationalpost.com/np/blogs/fullcomment/archive/2009/10/16/john-ivison-canada-failing-in-university-grad-stakes.aspx?CommentPosted=true#commentmessage#ixzz0UDic27CS
Targeted higher education areas are important rather than the overall number of degrees. How many Women's Studies grads ever get real jobs that increase productivity. We do get lots of propaganda from them though.
I am concerned more with the underlying statistics. Most every invention of any worth was created by a man. I am not knocking women by any means but this is a fact. How many men are currently enrolled in university as opposed to females. In the USA on average for every 148 degrees to a woman there is 100 for men. It is more pronounced in the undergrad and MA levels but is still higher at PhD levels in favour of females. I was hoping to see a breakdown on this for Canada as it is very important to understand the demographics. A good example is related to Doctors. Pumping out more Doctors isn't necessarily the total answer to the Doctor shortage. Female Doctors work fewer hours than males (presumably for family related needs) and this is not a criticism. I raised two children as a stay-at-home dad for 10 years and it was a wonderful experience. What is important to know is the ratio of male to female because if one gender works fewer hours we need more Doctors overall to compensate. In other words we cannot use male Doctor hours worked to calculate the answer.
What obstacles are in the way of men to achieve higher participation rates for University? Where does it start? A boy is unlikely to see a male teacher over his first 8 years of school. Does this play a role later in life?
R&D along with science is the area where we need focus. I would not want to suggest all other degrees (except lawyers) are not useful, because they are a measurement of someones discipline to achieve greater knowledge, which is not easy.