Sunday, June 21, 2009

Victim Feminists in Calgary know no bounds in raising money on the backs of Fathers


The Victim Feminists involved in the Domestic Violence/Shelter Industry in Calgary demonstrate loudly and without mercy what they think of the 'sanctity' and importance of Fathers Day? It is on Page 6 in the Calgary Sun. Saturday 20th June 2009 and on the 21st, Fathers Day. Isn't this the same newspaper who promotes its sales by featuring scantily clad females. Why would they do that? To attract male readers of course. Do they not think we are sensitive to being slandered on our own special weekend?

Note the largest word is DONATE. Its all about money and even though DV is pretty much equal between genders and mothers in the USA and Australia the greatest predators and killers of children in addition to being the greatest abusers of children in the USA they have no shame in picking Fathers Day as an opportunistic way to get more money? Nothing related to men is sacred after all we are the patriarchy and the oppressors.

From Political Commentator True Blue and Jeremy Swanson:

"Switch Newspapers" Calgary/Alberta activists urge
This below From our Ontario comrade and friend "True Blue" Re; Alberta provincial and federal tax dollars at work -in full glaring colour.('hate advertising'?) Imagine how much that advert cost in er....'government' money? On Fathers Day for Heaven's sake ! !
Surely this is high now time for our politicians to put an end to this funded misandry and put these outrageous hate groups out of business once and for all?
btw, anyone wondering ` how do gender bigots celebrate Fathers Day using our tax dollars ? ' Answer's the usual: with sexist slandering & demonizing of ALL males. Imagine the public reaction if ads were run on Mothers Day warning of the statistically far more probable maternal homicide and injury violence threat to children ??

The following is a recommendation from Jeremy Swanson of Fathers Can with which I concur. The ad promotes misandry on every Father's Special Day.

In consultation this evening it was agreed that this is nothing short of 'hate advertising with further intent to profit'. Activists-especially Alberta activists and supporters are urged to note the media which carried this shameless advert on Fathers Day weekend and consider a boycott of that newspaper. Calgary area and other Alberta FR activists have been in contact and have indicated they are urging activists, supporters, families and all consumers in Calgary and surrounds to switch their daily newspaper from the Calgary Sun to the Calgary Herald and also to take out subscriptions and buy the National Post as their National Daily. They have requested that all activists and supporters spread the word of this boycott.





A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception Condom anyone?

1-888-F4J Canada

Press release

Contact: Kris Titus
Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext.703

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
June 21, 2009

For Immediate Release June 21, 2009
A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception
Condom anyone?


F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada is using their website to urge men to use a condom, before they need to call an organization like theirs because they get caught in the FLAW system.

"Men in Canada need to quite literally start protecting themselves from the flawed family law system. They can spend 30 cents now or pay $30,000 or more later in courts costs to see their kids 4 days a month. Dads are just not seen as important," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator of F4J Fathers 4 Justice in Canada.

In the week leading up to Fathers Day there have been so many different interpretations of Dads it’s hard to know what a father is these days, never mind what we think they should be.

Oprah features a single dad with 9 children, the National Post features an article on the importance of sperm in child development, and of course two Fathers 4 Justice campaigners proclaim from Carfax tower in England that “A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception.”

The saying resounds with fathers around the world. Not only does it relay to the public and politicians that fathers have a right to raise their children, it also sends an important message to dads that if you have a child, you should be responsible.

It is this need for a balance between rights and responsibilities behind Federal Bill C-422 to amend the Divorce Act in favor of a presumption of equal parenting upon divorce, introduced by MP Maurice Vellacott, supported by MPs Steven Blaney and Raymonde Folco.

“Right now the focus is on litigation not restoration. Money talks and Dads are forced to walk away because they cannot afford to fight for their children any longer. We need to start asking why they should even have to!” says Kris Titus.

From the perspective of a child, Fathers 4 Justice JR Justice Leaguer with a cause, Katy, truly says it best, “Happy Fathers Day from all the invisible children. Even though some of us don’t know who you are, we still think of you on your special day and about the bonds we would have shared.”

Here’s the link to Katy’s Father’s Day message to all the Fathers and Grandfathers out there who feel like a broken record. http://www.f4jcanada.com/Katy/SaveKaty.html

THIS Fathers day, let’s really think about what Fathers mean to children, to families, and to society and let's give them all the support, love and respect that they deserve.


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Friday, June 19, 2009

The commodification of sperm

Barbara has the uncanny ability to burrow into the thought process of the victim feminist mind and deduce certain inconsistencies. This is clearly one more whereby the very people who sing the loudest in whining glory about being oppressed by the male patriarchy want to reproduce children, without the biodad interfering, and who are the essence of what they say is wrong with the world. Only sperm used from those males who are 5"11" in height is the bare minimum acceptable thank you very much they say.

I've always said this brand of feminism do have "daddy" issues, probably from childhood and are more like children in adult bodies and frankly don't know what they really want. It is an ideolgy but has no sold foundation in fact only mythology.MJM






Barbara Kay

National Post Wednesday, June 17, 2009

http://www.nationalpost.com/todays-paper/story.html?id=1702952


A few months ago I took part in a mock debate whose annual tradition it is to task stand-up comics manques with raising optimal laughs around a deeply trivial theme.


The proposed resolution was "The short man is the better man." I argued this was a wince-inducing subject for the height-challenged male, equivalent to "The fat woman is the better woman," and furthermore a natural temptation to witless ribaldry. My objections falling on deaf ears, including some attached to short men, I manned up for the job as best I could.

Googling desperately, I came upon an informational tidbit that proved excellent (and only slightly ribald) fodder for debate laughs, but also seems an apt take-off point for my yearly Fatherless Day column, namely: Most sperm banks will not accept donations from men who stand under 5' 11" in height.


The sperm-seekers whose demand has produced this height restriction aren't giggly teenagers or desperate housewives addicted to Harlequin romances. They are strong, autonomous, educated, middle class, not-so-young women of ambition with support systems and resources sufficient to the logistical demands of child-rearing.

Whether childless because of sexual orientation, a ticking biological clock aligned with bad luck in the marriage market, or principled misandry, they view their future child's fatherlessness with sanguine confidence and a clear conscience.


Amongst such committed egalitarians in all other gender-related matters, then, logic would suggest a willingness to accept height parity, or at least diversity. So why are these father-cleansing feminists choosing to "mate" with a stereotypically patriarchal symbol of physical dominance?

Because deep inside, they aren't buying the utopian theories they've superficially endorsed. Freed from the hassle of meeting Mr. Right, and at liberty to conjure up Mr. Right DNA, even women mate-free by choice want to perpetuate via their future child's hologram sire the same symbols of male strength and protectiveness women have prized since time immemorial. Their decision to " disappear" their child's father says manliness isn't important; their atavistically-driven entries on the sperm bank checklist say it is.


We now take for granted the technology of alternate reproductive initiatives that marginalize men's contribution to the family, and by extension to society. But we shouldn't. Every child born with only half an identity -- the mother's --is a reproach to our decision, which began with the advent of the birth control pill in 1959, to privilege the sexual and reproductive rights of adults over the rights of children. For "adults," read "women."


Men took their cues from women. They soon internalized the feminist message that they had many responsibilities as fathers, but unlike mothers no natural rights, a rubric borne out in higher court judgments and countless custody narratives. Men's biological and social value, and their relationship to their issue, has for some time been contingent on women's wishes and perceived needs.


And yet countless studies confirm the opposite of what the very existence of sperm banks imply. Biological fathership matters. Fatherlessness figures disproportionately in every anti-social behaviour from school dropout to sexual pathology to hard criminality. A non-biological father figure in the home is the greatest indicator for child abuse.


There's no secret to healthy communities. Marriage is the key. It takes the same boring, bourgeois values and domestic strategies today, often referred to amongst cultural observers as "the plan" -- education first, then a job, then marriage and only then children -- as it did in 1950 to produce (on the whole, no personal anecdotes, please) secure, successful children.


Poverty is not the issue, as ideologues continue to insist. The same bourgeois values send many poor, but culturally traditional immigrants' children soaring to peaks of achievement.


The irony is that the theorists doling out the Kool-Aid aren't drinking it themselves. Marriage rates are going up amongst the educated middle class, and down amongst the uneducated, unskilled and unmotivated -- those least equipped to compensate for the negative effects of fatherlessness on children.


The commodification of sperm is a particularly hypocritical blot on the social landscape. Donor recipients cheat their children with society's blessing by mimicking the plan. They get their education and job first, but skip the crucial marriage part. Finally they parachute their "family" into stable, aspirational environments sustained by two-parent families. Sperm-donor mothers thus effectively freeload from the harvest sown by the very bourgeois constraints they exempted themselves from in their children's creation.


Sperm banks opened a Pandora's box. The inevitable coming debate: "The cloned child is the better child." Comedians may raise laughter from this not-so-trivial subject, but fathers -not so much.


bkay@videotron.ca


Thursday, June 18, 2009

Woman burns toddler, gets house arrest ~ Is this a serious Gender Discount



Another example of the corruption in the judiciary. If this had been a man could you imagine he would get house arrest? Can you think of the out cry if a male was selected for house arrest? This boils down to a vacation at home for child abuse beyond the pale. Shame on you Justice Helen MacLeod-Beliveau you are a disgrace and a sorry example of the Canadian Judiciary for handing out such egregious gender discounts. This is far too common in family and criminal courts. See my email to the judge following the article. Does the following statement sound like something Obama's recent appointee to the USA Supreme Court. She is a Latino female named Sotomayer. So now we get Judges who think they can make better decisions than men because of their gender, environment or race. What drivel. The Crown Attorney, defense lawyer and Judge were female. Is this the kind of decision making we can expect from feminist activist judges and lawyers? MJM

Treasurer and Justice MacLeod BeliveauAt the reception following the event, Justice MacLeod Beliveau reiterated this sentiment, saying that greater diversity on the bench means that different life experiences are brought to the decisions that are made. "We are not a homogeneous society and we need to have increased sensitivity to the diverse experiences of those before the courts," she said.













By Tom Brodbeck
tom.brodbeck@sunmedia.ca

The Winnipeg Sun


WINNIPEG -- An Ontario judge has handed down one of the most egregious sentences I've seen in a long time to a woman who forced a toddler's hands into a pot of boiling water, causing fourth-degree burns.

For that, Superior Court Justice Helen MacLeod-Beliveau is the latest winner of the Eight-Ball Award, handed out in this column to highlight some of the worst perversions of justice in our court system.

As perversions go, this one falls on the severe side of the judicial spectrum, bringing not only Canada's administration of justice into disrepute but also plunging this country's justice system to a new low.

Unimaginable agony

Magan Marie Muir, now 24, was supposed to be caring for two children in 1997. Instead, she took the hands of two-year-old Damon Reddom Stone -- her then-boyfriend's son -- and plunged them mercilessly into a pot of boiling water.

The toddler's hands were immersed to his wrists, causing second, third and fourth-degree burns and weeks of unimaginable agony and pain.

Muir lied to police when they investigated the burns, which hospital officials immediately recognized as a deliberate act to cause serious injury.

Muir told police Damon was burned after he climbed up to the stove and knocked a pot of boiling water to the floor.

Unspeakable crime

Despite her unspeakable crime and the fact she attempted to obstruct justice by lying to police, Muir was given a conditional sentence -- or house arrest -- of 18 months by Justice MacLeod-Beliveau in a Belleville, Ont. courtroom Tuesday.

MacLeod-Beliveau argued during sentencing it has been proven jail time in cases like these is not an effective deterrent.

She also said Muir is not a danger to the public.

Not a danger to the public? She took a two-year-old's hands and dunked them into a pot of boiling water.

If that's not a danger to the public, I don't know what is.

MacLeod-Beliveau obviously didn't give much -- if any -- weight to the Criminal Code's sentencing principles of deterrence, denunciation and the overriding principle sentences must be proportionate to the gravity of a crime.

If she did, it would have been impossible for her to accept the joint-sentencing recommendation of the Crown and the defence, which she could have rejected.

But she didn't.

Instead, she said Muir's crime was simply out of character.

How thoughtful. Did the judge hand Muir a bouquet of flowers, too?

MacLeod-Beliveau also said no sentence could restore Damon's hands.

Yeah, we know that. We're not looking for a sentence that's going to restore his hands. That's political rhetoric, the kind of pablum soft, left-leaning judges regurgitate to support their pathetic sentences.

No, Justice MacLeod-Beliveau, we're looking for a sentence that follows the sentencing principles as set out in the Criminal Code.

We're looking for a sentence that denounces this crime and denounces it loudly.

We're looking for specific and general deterrence.

And most of all, we're looking for a fit sentence that is proportionate to the gravity of the crime.

That's what the law says you're supposed to do.

Unfortunately, MacLeod-Beliveau failed miserably on all counts.

She failed to ensure justice was served in this case and she contributed significantly to the rapid erosion of public confidence in our justice system.

Enjoy the Eight-Ball, MacLeaod-Beliveau. I'm sure it will look swell on your mantle.


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Dear Judge:

Re: http://www.winnipegsun.com/news/2009/06/18/9838186.html#/news/winnipeg/2009/06/18/pf-9835956.html

Your recent decision is another example of the appearance of corruption in the judiciary.We just got rid of the Political Hack and former colleague of yours Paul Cosgrove. If this had been a man could you imagine he would get house arrest? Can you think of the outcry if you gave a male house arrest under similar circumstances? This boils down to a vacation at home for child abuse beyond the pale. It matters not there was collusion between the Crown and defence. We have seen what Crowns are capable of with the recent revelations in Barrie and Windsor of both corruption within the sphere of the Ontario Attorney General and participating Police Forces.

Shame on you Justice Helen MacLeod-Beliveau you are a disgrace and a sorry example of the Canadian Judiciary for handing out such egregious gender discounts. This is far too common in family and criminal courts. I pity any man who has to face you in family court. It is clear where your sympathies come to rest.

You have made a major contribution to the continuing loss of confidence in the administration of justice in our country.



Mike Murphy

Fran Lebowitz - "Life is something to do when you can't get to sleep."
cc Rob Nicholson, Justice Minister, Canada, C. Bentley, AG, Ontario,Canadian Judicial Council




Damon Reddom, pictured the day after his hands were dipped into a pot of boiling water by a 24-year-old city woman. The woman, who was handed a conditional sentence, has since moved to St. Catharine’s to finish serving her home-based sentence.

Submitted photo





Mom seeking justice for child victims

Posted By Jeremy Ashley The Intelligencer

Posted 4 days ago


At times, Damon Reddom Stone is a haunted four-year-old.

Sitting on his mother’s lap Monday, he ran his hands over her fingertips.

“He said, ‘Mommy, I wish I had normal hands like you,’” recalled Tina Reddom this week.

Every so often, she said, her youngster’s mind drifts back to the morning of Oct. 16, 2007 when a 24-year-old city woman — in a fit of supposed rage — forced his tiny hands into a pot of boiling water in the Applewood Drive apartment she shared with her then-boyfriend, Damon's father.

Damon, who was two at the time, sustained serious burns and will require several surgeries, skin grafts and therapy to treat the wounds.

After pleading guilty to assault causing bodily harm earlier this year, Magan Muir agreed to an 18-month sentence for the crime.

The first half of Muir’s sentence is being spent under house arrest, while during the remaining nine months she will be allowed out into the community under certain conditions.

Like many others in the community, the boy’s mother remains outraged at the sentence, charging her son was shortchanged by the criminal justice system.

Earlier this month, another blow was dealt to the Reddom family — Muir was granted a request to move to St. Catharines to finish serving her sentence while living with family.

“How can she choose where she is going to live? She should be serving her sentence in the community where she committed this crime, I think. And, the last time I checked, an inmate in a prison couldn’t say ‘Hey, I don’t like it here, can I move to another prison’. It doesn’t make sense to me, and quite frankly, pisses me off.

“Damon didn’t get an ounce of justice, not one stitch of justice.”

Reddom said her son, who is the youngest of two, will be dealing with his injuries for years to come — despite the long road he’s already walked during the past 20 months.

After the incident, Reddom took three months off work to ensure Damon received the best care, which included hours of daily physiotherapy and bandage changes.

“It was hell, to say the least, but at least he can use his hands ... and I am very grateful for that. I thank God every single day because Damon could have lost use of his hands because of his burns.”

During his visits to Sick Kids hospital in Toronto, Damon visits with a number of specialists, including psychiatrists and therapists.

The youngster is a trooper: doctors are impressed with his recovery from both the physical and mental trauma of the incident.

“I doubt myself a lot when it comes to helping with Damon’s healing process,” Tina said. “Am I doing the physiotherapy right, or am I changing his bandages properly ... so for him to be doing as well as he’s doing is such good news for us.”

Ensuring her two children are not consumed with bitterness about the family’s situation is a daily struggle.

“I tell you that some of the thoughts and the feelings that I’ve had in the last 20 months would land me behind bars for a very long time. But I look at my boy Damon everyday and he needs me more now than ever ... and what kind of mother would I be if I put myself at her (Muir’s) level? I’m above that — anyone who can do that to a child is scum on the bottom of the river.”

At the same time, Reddom feels as though she is failing her son — an emotion that has sparked an online frenzy through the social networking website Facebook.

“Our kids are our future and if the justice system isn’t going to protect them, who will? As a community and country, we need to stand up and tell our government that change is needed.”

To date, more than 8,200 people are members of her group ‘Where is the justice?’ — an element that Reddom hopes to harness into a special event to raise awareness about abused children and the “failings of the justice system” in the hopes of initiating change.

For instance, the Canadian justice system is “a very sexist,” she said, noting that in her opinion, a man would have received a much harsher sentence for the same crime.

“This event will be to raise awareness about how this is happening to our kids everyday — children are getting abused everyday and people are getting away with it.

“I would go to jail longer if I were to rob a convenience store. A person takes away the innocence of a child and they don’t even serve any time in jail and get to walk amongst us and our children.”

Specific details of the awareness walk, which is expected to be held in Belleville in late summer, have yet to be worked out, she said.

“Something has to give there, something has to change. I can’t get Damon the justice he deserves, but maybe I can for the next baby. At the end of the day, I want to be able to stand up and say I helped get that change because our babies deserve better.

“And I’m not going to stop until I’m heard, and I tell you, I’ve got about 60 years left on my life and God granted me a big mouth for a reason and I’m going to keep going until somebody listens.”

jashley@intelligencer.ca


Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Today's C-422 press conference has been bumped to 1:30pm from 1:00pm

From: Vellacott, Maurice - Assistant 1 [mailto:VellaM0@nospamparl.gc.ca]
Sent: June 17, 2009 11:10 AM
Subject: Today's C-422 press conference has been bumped to 1:30pm from 1:00pm

The Private Member’s Bill is not accessible on the Parliamentary website. Go here http://www2.parl.gc.ca/HouseBills/BillsPrivate.aspx?Language=E&Mode=1&Parl=40&Ses=2 then scroll down and click on C-422.


I can send you an audio file of Mr. Vellacott’s 1-minute member’s statement on Equal Parenting from yesterday, but the mp3 file is over 1 Meg in size. The flv file is 4 Megs and the wmv file is 7.5 Megs, so I will only send an audio file to those who request one by reply email and please tell me which version you want or else I will send the mp3 version. If any of you post the audio file to a blog or website, please let us know with a link to the website for our files.


Thank you.

The Marriage-Go-Round, a review

I'm beginning to wonder if their isn't a subliminal message in all of the writing this organization puts out that dads, after marriage, don't count. Note its all about the single mom in this report and in the more recent product relating to the cost of marriage breakdown. Here the author is quoting an American book and also suggests ensuring child support is collected and goes directly to the mom instead of the government. Given the government gives the mom the whole amount where do they think the benefit is? (don't get me started on government collection agencies) Do they think the government deducts a certain amount as a service charge. Do they think the dad is just a wallet as do most others in the Divorce Industry? Do they not know 75% of marriages are initiated by the female in Canada and 66% in the USA? Do they not understand the poverty resulting from marriage breakdown and the creation of single parent female homes is because of the Superior Court judiciary in Canada? Where do the divorced dads fit in besides as wallets?

I'm beginning to suspect they have an agenda of further marginalization of fathers separated from their children by the state through no fault of their own.
Given they are not going to save marriages with this drivel or their incomplete report on the cost of marriage breakdown what indeed is their agenda? Is it the same as their religious right supporters in the USA? Does religious dogma and political correctness prevent them from supporting a closer relationship with children and their fathers after marriage breakdown through legislative changes like shared and equal parenting? Can they not see most dads want equality and that would clearly leave better outcomes for children. Perhaps they need to read Dr. Jayne Major's thesis on a better way to handle marriage breakdown here.

I'd recommend they talk to experts like Dr. Edward Kruk and other proponents of equal/shared parenting. Mauric
e Vellacott, MP just introduced a Private Members Bill # C-422 to change the law to equal shared parenting and he is also a believer in marriage as a strong foundation. They should talk to him! Where Shared and Equal Parenting has been introduced the divorce rate has dropped! If the Belgium model was followed the collection agencies for child support will no longer be needed. Do you know in the USA these collection agencies have more employees than the Drug Enforcement Agency? They would have more credibility by presenting a more balanced view of two partners being involved during and after marriage dissolution when children are involved. I'm certainly starting to think they cannot see the big picture as many who are driven by religious dogma or are getting their marching orders from same.MJM






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The Marriage-Go-Round, a review

By Peter Jon Mitchell, Research Analyst, Institute of Marriage and Family Canada

Cherlin, Andrew J. (2009) The Marriage-Go-Round. New York, Alfred A. Knopf.

Everyone is still talking about marriage in America. Its configuration, cultural meaning, and exclusivity are fodder for heated public debate and pop culture “reality” shows. It’s the prized trophy for television daters who survive gruelling weeks of hot tub hopping. According to revered Johns Hopkins University Sociologist Andrew Cherlin, Americans value marriage with a gusto rarely found in other western nations.

In his book The Marriage-Go-Round, Cherlin suggests that despite America’s soft spot for marriage, partnerships are becoming less stable as people divorce and increasingly choose to cohabit, which is less stable than marriage. Cherlin fears this instability means people are partnering and re-partnering at a dizzying pace.

This wasn’t always the case. Cherlin retraces the history of marriage in America from the Plymouth pilgrims to modern Massachusetts. He outlines the role marriage has played in the social and economic stability of earlier generations. Cherlin argues a significant change occurred among the young, prosperous, but dissatisfied generation of the 1960s. This cohort and subsequent generations view marriage through two cultural models. On one hand, marriage remains the preferred way to live. It is valued as a permanent relationship with divorce as a last resort. On the other hand, North Americans also embrace an individualistic cultural model governed by self-interest. Life is a continuous series of personal choices, and dissatisfaction requires change, even if this means dissolving a family.

Cherlin argues rapid social change over the last fifty years has prompted this duel view of marriage, transforming how Americans understand marriage. Married women have increasingly entered the workforce, while the knowledge-based economy has left non-college educated men with less economic opportunity reducing the likelihood they’ll seek marriage. The birth control pill severed sex from marriage and altered how people approach partnership. According to Cherlin, these forces have transformed the meaning of marriage from a valued public good, to a matter of private choice. Cherlin declares, “the postmodern, relationship-based view of marriage has carried the day.”

While North Americans still value marriage, the cultural shift has resulted in an increased divorce rate, and prevalent cohabitation and lone-parenthood. Cherlin’s primary concern is that relationship instability has led to rapid re-partnering of adults with negative consequences for children.

Social science continues to prove that stable, biological two-parent families provide the best environment for children. For this reason, Cherlin concludes by cautioning his American audience to “slow down.” He’d prefer Americans delay childbearing, taking more time to select mates and develop relationships. He suggests that single parents give second thought to quickly inviting romantic partners to share their home. To assist this, he advocates for a policy of economic stabilization to reduce the fiscal pressures leading to quick re-partnering. As an example he points to an experiment in Wisconsin in 1997 that ensured that more of the child support payments collected by the government under the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families program went to mothers instead of into government coffers. He suggests that seven years later, lone-mothers in the experiment were less likely to have a history of cohabiting with a partner.

Cherlin’s message to slow down requires people to voluntarily mimic the stability that marriage is meant to provide, without committing to the constraints within marriage that provide stability. This may prove to be a challenging prospect. Even if Cherlin’s message takes root, it is based on the hypothesis that instability accounts for poorer child outcomes among lone-parent and cohabiting families compared to married parent families. Much evidence supports this, but research shows that family transitions may not be the only factor accounting for certain child outcomes among cohabiting and lone-parent families. The fact remains that marriage in the U.S. is more stable than any other family form, and continues to serve the public good.

What does this all mean for Canadians?

Cherlin does not address marriage in Canada aside from international comparisons. Canada is perhaps more pluralistic, reflective of the postmodern mindset. Marriage and parenthood were legally redefined with the legalization of same sex marriage in 2005 building on and solidifying the view of marriage as nothing more than a personal relationship. Cherlin provides Canadians with an engaging historical-sociological perspective, reviewing a debate we never had on the role of marriage in society.

Cherlin writes as a dispassionate academic observer. Readers may conjure images of an ivory tower scholar sipping lattés at the local coffee shop, as he ponders the possible demise of marriage—something that affects many of us intimately. However, his somewhat detached observations provide interesting insights. Cherlin provides well researched insights—worth reading even for those who dispute his conclusions.

Permission is granted to reprint or broadcast this information with appropriate attribution to the Institute of Marriage and Family Canada