Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Feminists endowed with a superiority complex

August 11, 2009


By Carey Roberts

Taking the oath to "do equal right to the poor and to the rich," Sonia Sotomayor was finally sworn in as the first Latina on the U.S. Supreme Court. No sooner had the kerfuffle surrounding her "wise Latina" remark subsided, when Carol Smith saw fit to pen this wise verdict in the New York Times: "In my experience, female bosses tend to be better managers, better advisers, mentors, rational thinkers."

Not to be outdone, last week NPR analyst Cokie Roberts opined in the Washington Post, "Women tend to be a lot more commonsensical than men are" and admitted to hectoring her husband that "Men are just lesser beings."

Call it whatever you want — female empowerment, turning the tables, girls letting off a little steam, whatever — it's time to blow the whistle on feminist-inspired misandry.

For decades, male-bashing has been deemed an amusing side show in the Battle of the Sexes. Some consider it funny when an advertisement depicts a man maimed by his girlfriend. Others will say an abused man simply had it coming. (Think former NFL star Steve McNair, shot four times in his sleep by a jealous girlfriend — but no one could bring themselves to call it "domestic violence.")

In recent years, gender supremacism has entered the mainstream of political discourse. Former Congresswoman Barbara Jordan of Texas once declared, "I believe that women have a capacity for understanding and compassion which a man structurally does not have."

And consider Hillary Clinton's remark, "Research shows the presence of women raises the standards of ethical behavior and lowers corruption." Thank goodness we have ethical paragons like Hillary to show us out of the wilderness.

Sometimes pronouncements of women-as-uber-species approach the point of logical absurdity. Appearing on NPR radio, Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords of Arizona once gushed that women "get so much done because we make lists." Somehow that sounds like the freakish musings of an obsessive-compulsive, not the reflections of a person trying to make the world a kinder, gentler place.

A February 5 editorial in the Christian Science Monitor announced grandly that "a woman leader governs differently than a man, bringing new perspectives and helping other women."

I'm sure that came as a surprise to the men who worked long and hard to enact Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid, and a bevy of other programs that primarily benefit women.

Sometimes the gender supremacists get downright ugly, lapsing into demagoguery to cast men as abusers, deadbeats, and batterers. If you want a real eye-opener, take a look at University of Michigan Catherine McKinnon's writings. And don't forget Valerie Solanas' SCUM (Society for Cutting up Men) Manifesto.

Not all academics are enamored of the feminist antics. Professors Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young of McGill University have written two scholarly tomes that probe the feminist dystopia. Their first book, Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture, lamentably concludes "men are society's official scapegoats and [should be] held responsible for all evil, including that done by the women they have deluded or intimidated."

Their second work, Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systematic Discrimination Against Men, reveals how feminists have capitalized on their disdain for men to reshape policies in such wide-ranging areas as marriage, divorce, custody, and even employment.

Case in point is the recent revelation that President Obama's stimulus plan is skewed to favor women, even though men in the manufacturing and construction industries have been hit hardest: www.renewamerica.com/columns/roberts/090723 .

America has a courageous record of drawing on our traditional notions of fairness and justice to confront supremacists in our midst. We have faced down the bigots, the xenophobes, left-wing fascists, and race-baiters.

Now we must come to terms with the dark side of modern feminism, a movement that fosters contempt and scorn for men.

© Carey Roberts

http://www.renewamerica.com/columns/roberts/090811

Monday, August 10, 2009

The Hill Times ~ Response to a one sided Feminist Rant

I am advised the letter will run in the Aug. 17 edition of The Hill Times.

Editor, Hill Times
Ottawa, Ontario

Dear Editor:


Re: Harper government more connected to 'organized anti-feminism' than previous Conservative or Liberal parties, August 10/09


I read with certain dismay the column by Cynthia Münster and the comments attributed to Professor Sylvia Bashevkin. The latter offered no attribution for her statements and they appear to be accepted by the columnist as though they were factual. That is often the case with feminism.

She attributes Real Women of Canada as pro-Harper and anti-feminist because they have a different perspective from the usual left leaning feminists. Real Women are non-ideological women who believe they are equal and do not need an ideology like feminism to provide a crutch.

She says …”that women are disadvantaged when it comes to politics in general. Currently there are 69 female MPs in the House of Commons,” Does she not understand women use choices to seek career paths and does she not understand these same women do not like the political battle fields. Women have the same opportunity as men at the grass roots level and those who really have a desire rise to the top. Those who are appointed by their parties as affirmative action candidates ought not to have been in the process at all and they usually lose.

Here are some quick facts: Women are the majority of employees in the Federal and Ontario Public service. In the Feds it was 54.9% in 2008 and growing. It is approaching 60% in the Ontario Public Service but no one will give me the exact number including my MPP and I defy anyone to find it on the Ontario government web site.

In the USA these are the degrees granted in 2009 and this trend has been prevalent since the early 80’s. One can easily assume it is the same in Canada. This has been compiled by Professor Mark Perry at the U of Michigan: Associate’s degrees: 167 for women for every 100 for men, Bachelor’s degrees: 142 for women for every 100 for men, Master’s degrees: 159 for women for every 100 for men, Professional degrees: 104 for women for every 100 for men, Doctoral degrees: 107 for women for every 100 for men, and Degrees at all levels: 148 for women for every 100 for men.

These are but a few of the “equality” stats and many touted by feminists such as the mysterious wage gap are mythology.

I think it is high time the feminists stopped the whining and you did an article on the Status of Men in Canada who have no special branch of government to support them.

Dude, put down the breast pump Blogs, support groups and books that feature men teaching ‘daddying style' to other men are cropping up

8/10/2009 12:02:00 PM
I am proud to stay I was a stay-at-home dad for 10 years and have changed at least a thousand diapers if not more. I have learned some of the more technical aspects of cleaning the babies body after soiling for both boys and girls. One does not appreciate all the nuances of these things until actually doing it.

I can say with certainty for any man out there, and I considered myself a "manly" man, this will be the most rewarding activity you will ever encounter. You will adapt to the routine - and if you let it - flourish in your new role as main caregiver. When I did it there was no dad support groups and when volunteering at school classes, mostly moms would be in attendance and they don't quite know what to make of you. Just stand back and admire your child and gradually make conversation until they get used to you. There were plenty of dads though who took time from work to act as volunteer drivers to and from activity's.

I would posit that our testosterone levels tend to drop, as they do when your partner is pregnant and giving birth. The latter has been verified in studies. We need not worry about being completely feminized though because if we have a hockey or soccer game or any other challenge they get called back into action pretty darn fast. I also, through experience can say we as a gender can nurture with the best.

My son-in-law is one of the most nurturing fathers I've met and he works full time at a very demanding job.

If you get the opportunity you won't regret it.

We need to keep on advocating about our abilities, as any dad who has faced family law will tell you. Over 90% of sole custody orders go to mom and we end up as visitors and wallets even if you have been the stay-at-home parent.

Times they are a changing but not in many areas that count. We need laws that have a presumption of shared and equal parenting for fit parents such as bill C-422 currently on the order paper in the federal parliament.MJM





Adriana Barton

Vancouver From Monday's Globe and Mail

When a hands-on dad gets hold of a breast pump, it can be a scary thing.

Brad Powell, a father of three in Austin, Tex., was so keen to experience all aspects of parenting that he attached the suction cups of an electric breast pump to his own chest and turned on the juice.

The result – both hilarious and cringe-inducing – was documented by his buddies in an online video that has drawn 40,000 views on YouTube.

The suction cups “hurt to death,” Mr. Powell says with a chuckle, but the stunt was for a good cause. He and three friends are the founders of DadLabs.com, an online video company that helps modern fathers learn the ropes of parenting through “guy-coloured lenses.” Combining hard facts with goofball humour, they produce four free videos each week on topics such as delivery room tips for dads, the circumcision debate and how to throw a ninja-themed birthday party.

Their strategy of juxtaposing diapers with beer mugs is working, Mr. Powell says, because men can relate to guy banter filmed in a garage. DadLabs logs 800,000 views on its syndicated network each month, and the five-year-old company recently renewed a six-figure sponsorship deal with BabyBjorn.

For some fathers, “it's easier to learn how to change a diaper from another man than from a woman,” says Aaron Rochlen, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin who studies men's issues. “Because then they can go drink a beer and talk about sports and reconnect in other ways with their masculinity.”

DadLabs's success is just one indication of the healthy market for parenting resources created by men for men.

The team behind DadLabs.com, an online video resource for fathers: Brad Powell, left, Clay Nichols, Troy Lanier, right, and Owen Egerton, front. Mr. Powell’s adventure with a breast pump is a YouTube draw.

The team behind DadLabs.com, an online video resource for fathers: Brad Powell, left, Clay Nichols, Troy Lanier, right, and Owen Egerton, front. Mr. Powell’s adventure with a breast pump is a YouTube draw.

“There has been an explosion of blogs and support groups and books of late that have tapped into that daddying style and how to learn from other men,” Dr. Rochlen says.

Must-reads include Home Game: An Accidental Guide to Fatherhood and The Daddy Shift: How Stay-at-Home Dads, Breadwinning Moms, and Shared Parenting Are Transforming the American Family , both out this year.

But today's highly involved fathers aren't just sprawling on the couch with a pile of books.

They're taking the kids to the dad-run playgroups springing up in cities throughout North America. They're swapping advice on baby gear or dealing with toilet-training regression on forums such as Dadstayshome.com, which has 170,000 postings to date.

And working fathers are banding together, too. They're joining activities such as Man in the Moon, a story program led by men and offered at nine branches of the Vancouver Public Library.

In the Toronto area, they're showing up at dads' groups such as the twice-weekly series at LAMP's Early Years Centre, or learning about the subtleties of a child's temperament at the annual Dads Count Conference held in June.

Activities such as these enable men to forge a new identity as modern fathers without feeling emasculated, Dr. Rochlen says. “Men are stretching themselves in positive ways to tap into levels of nurturing and caretaking that they haven't necessarily seen in their own fathers.”

Traditionally, the only topics fathers discussed were their pride as parents or skill as disciplinarians, according to Tomas Moniz, editor of Rad Dad, a San Francisco-based zine that won a 2009 independent press award from Utne magazine.

Today, more and more fathers are engaged in their kids' lives from day 1, Mr. Moniz says. He started Rad Dad four years ago to help fathers explore a vision of parenting that is distinct from mothering. “Having fathers write birth stories is really a profound experience,” he says.

In most of the new father-generated parenting resources, the underlying assumption is that men should be equal partners in the raising of kids.

This was unheard of half a century ago, according to Jeremy Adam Smith, author of The Daddy Shift . If a father changed a diaper, for example, “he was looked upon as less than a man.” By contrast, in many social circles today, a father who refused to change a diaper would be ostracized, he says. “That, in a nutshell, is the daddy shift.”

U.S. studies show that the amount of time men have spent with their children has tripled since the 1960s and doubled in the past 15 years, Mr. Smith says.

The driving forces behind modern fathering are women's participation in the work force and the end of lifelong employment for men, he says. A third of women make more money than their husbands, he adds, and based on social studies, “there's a pretty robust correlation between women's economic power and male care-giving or father involvement.”

And that's not a bad thing, according to the dudes at DadLabs.

Learning to soothe a colicky baby or distract a raging toddler can be difficult, Mr. Powell says, but men should step up and do half the work.

“You have these wonderful things that just happen spontaneously with your children,” he says, and when dads embrace equal parenting, “it really does make for a happier home and a happier relationship with your partner and kids.”


http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/family-and-relationships/dude-put-down-the-breast-pump/article1245254/


For those who don't think men can breast feed check this out. http://www.switch.tv/videos/39/

And click on this search: http://www.google.ca/search?q=men+breast+feeding&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a

My: comments on this revelation on the Globe and Mail site:

@Anilegna: My 11 year old daughter refers to my mammary area as my "male boobs". Well I have to tell you they started feeling just a tad ticklish when I was watching that video. It is professionally done and the Director well respected. I still had my doubts, however, and did a search and it would appear it is possible for men to Breast Feed.

My goodness what a revelation that is. I fed my children with pumped mom's milk for a bit and periodically formula when she was too busy and even that was rewarding to see them in your arms sucking away with the eyes closed but appearing to be moving under the lids, the gurgling sounds, then the over the shoulder burp, and then more often than not pleasant sleep. Its quite a feeling of accomplishment to be nurturing a helpless child in that way.

Had I known this 11 years ago what a difference it might have made. My "manliness" still hasn't got used to the idea though and those nipples all men have still are feeling funny. They do have a purpose after all. Who would have thought! :)

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8/10/2009 10:01:46 AM
Any activity that encourages men to share the responsibility of child raising is a good thing.
All too often men are inadvertently excluded from the process.


8/10/2009 10:25:29 AM
I think this wave of men talking to and instructing other men on parenting is fantastic. It demystifies the idea and helps men feel more empowered to do things that used to be just relegated to "women's work."

The other piece of it is where many mommies need to learn how to back off a bit and accept that dad's can handle baby duties just as well as they do, even if they choose to do it in a different way. I think the imbalance of the work being on a mom's shoulders can easily be caused by the mom disapproving of the dad's way and then taking that responsibility away from them.

The only way to truly learn is by doing! As long as the baby isn't being damaged or consistently malnourished, one or two misarranged diapers or unsuccessful feedings will be more beneficial for the dad as a learning moment than damaging to the baby.


8/10/2009 11:05:49 AM
I love this. Big props to these dads. We know clearly from much research and popular books like Men are Form Mars Women Are From Venus that men's and women's brains and personalities function in very different ways. We know too that boys often learn differently than girls in school settings, so these men have simply taken some of that knowledge and expanded on it through social media and blogging and DadLabs. We know too that involved Dads can be a big predictor of a child's future success. Parenting is the hardest job a person will ever have, whether parenting as a Dad or a Mom. Women have been blogging, tweeting, facebooking and working motherhood issues through in chat rooms for several years now. Men are now getting in on this unique opportunity and putting their own spin on it. Kudos to DadLabs. Anything that helps to build a strong parenting toolbox is beneficial to everyone.

Paula Schuck
of thriftymommastips


8/10/2009 11:09:21 AM
It's a good first step and does help to build overall acceptance but the two holdouts that will need to be overcome are: women (who I find either feel guilty when they see Dad taking over the bulk of child rearing or are generally at a loss for words) and family law (which still appears trapped in 1950's, though they are at least paying lip service to men as potentially being interested in their kids).


8/10/2009 11:58:47 AM
"Dude, put down the breast pump"

Too funny G & M! Your 'Hip' slang is way off base.
Not too many 'Dads' are dudes! Certainly NOT This Daddy!

About 150 million 'Daddies' might get pretty cranky, even VIOLENT if you call them a 'Dude' or a 'Good Buddy'. That's the worst insult you can fling at a man. It ain't Politically Correct (manly speaking) or very safe either.






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8/10/2009 12:02:00 PM
I am proud to stay I was a stay-at-home dad for 10 years and have changed at least a thousand diapers if not more. I have learned some of the more technical aspects of cleaning the babies body after soiling for both boys and girls. One does not appreciate all the nuances of these things until actually doing it.

I can say with certainty for any man out there, and I considered myself a "manly" man, this will be the most rewarding activity you will ever encounter. You will adapt to the routine - and if you let it - flourish in your new role as main caregiver. When I did it there was no dad support groups and when volunteering at school classes, mostly moms would be in attendance and they don't quite know what to make of you. Just stand back and admire your child and gradually make conversation until they get used to you. There were plenty of dads though who took time from work to act as volunteer drivers to and from activity's.

I would posit that our testosterone levels tend to drop, as they do when your partner is pregnant and giving birth. The latter has been verified in studies. We need not worry about being completely feminized though because if we have a hockey or soccer game or any other challenge they get called back into action pretty darn fast. I also, through experience can say we as a gender can nurture with the best.

My son-in-law is one of the most nurturing fathers I've met and he works full time at a very demanding job.

If you get the opportunity you won't regret it.

We need to keep on advocating about our abilities, as any dad who has faced family law will tell you. Over 90% of sole custody orders go to mom and we end up as visitors and wallets even if you have been the stay-at-home parent.

Times they are a changing but not in many areas that count. We need laws that have a presumption of shared and equal parenting for fit parents such as bill C-422 currently on the order paper in the federal parliament.


8/10/2009 11:58:47 AM
"Dude, put down the breast pump"

Too funny G & M! Your 'Hip' slang is way off base.
Not too many 'Dads' are dudes! Certainly NOT This Daddy!

About 150 million 'Daddies' might get pretty cranky, even VIOLENT if you call them a 'Dude' or a 'Good Buddy'. That's the worst insult you can fling at a man. It ain't Politically Correct (manly speaking) or very safe either.





8/10/2009 11:09:21 AM
It's a good first step and does help to build overall acceptance but the two holdouts that will need to be overcome are: women (who I find either feel guilty when they see Dad taking over the bulk of child rearing or are generally at a loss for words) and family law (which still appears trapped in 1950's, though they are at least paying lip service to men as potentially being interested in their kids).


8/10/2009 11:05:49 AM
I love this. Big props to these dads. We know clearly from much research and popular books like Men are Form Mars Women Are From Venus that men's and women's brains and personalities function in very different ways. We know too that boys often learn differently than girls in school settings, so these men have simply taken some of that knowledge and expanded on it through social media and blogging and DadLabs. We know too that involved Dads can be a big predictor of a child's future success. Parenting is the hardest job a person will ever have, whether parenting as a Dad or a Mom. Women have been blogging, tweeting, facebooking and working motherhood issues through in chat rooms for several years now. Men are now getting in on this unique opportunity and putting their own spin on it. Kudos to DadLabs. Anything that helps to build a strong parenting toolbox is beneficial to everyone.

Paula Schuck
of thriftymommastips


8/10/2009 10:25:29 AM
I think this wave of men talking to and instructing other men on parenting is fantastic. It demystifies the idea and helps men feel more empowered to do things that used to be just relegated to "women's work."

The other piece of it is where many mommies need to learn how to back off a bit and accept that dad's can handle baby duties just as well as they do, even if they choose to do it in a different way. I think the imbalance of the work being on a mom's shoulders can easily be caused by the mom disapproving of the dad's way and then taking that responsibility away from them.

The only way to truly learn is by doing! As long as the baby isn't being damaged or consistently malnourished, one or two misarranged diapers or unsuccessful feedings will be more beneficial for the dad as a learning moment than damaging to the baby.

Saturday, August 8, 2009

F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada wins award from Pride Parade Vancouver

1-888-F4J Canada

Press Release

Contact: Kris Titus
Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext.703

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
August 7, 2009


For Immediate Release August 7, 2009

Proud to be Parents!

F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada wins award from Pride Parade Vancouver


So you think you have them all figured out. Angry men who wear leotards and terrorize women, children and politicians alike. If you are talking about Fathers 4 Justice Canada, that could not be further from the truth.

The group is celebrating one of their greatest achievements to date. The "Biggest Best Float" award from the Vancouver Pride Parade held last Sunday, August 2nd.

This year marks the fourth year the group has entered their float in the Pride Parade with their motto, "Proud to be Parents!"

"People have no idea how equality minded we actually are," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator for the group, "When we say we believe in truth, justice and equality, well, that's what we mean!"

This year's Vancouver Pride Parade was one of the largest, with attendance estimated at 600,000 citizens. Rob Robinson aka Burnaby Batman, and the group's National Action Coordinator explains, " We are there to educate, liberate and celebrate. This year we had 19 people participating with a full contingent of Fathers 4 Justice Superheros and a Kangaroo Judge."

This year's Vancouver Pride Parade marked another first for the group with a 'sneak peak' at their newest Superhero, to be released in the near future. Captain Condom will soon be seen in cities across Canada promoting the message that safe sex is safer than family court.

As part of a new public service campaign, the group will hand out thousands of free condoms to the public in hopes of raising awareness that with parental rights comes parental responsibilities and Canadians must protect themselves from family law.

F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada represents a very diverse cross section of Canadians from fathers and mothers to grandparents and parents in same sex relationships.

"We are honored, truly honored." says Titus, "We want to thank the Parade Committee and we look forward to many more years to come."
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The REAL gender gap scandal: Why boys are now the true victims of discrimination

The Victim Feminist Spin on this will tell you there is no gap but the numbers tell a different story at senior levels of schooling and this has been going on since the early 80's. The following are USA stats but most western democracies are probably similar.

"Since 1981, women have collected 135 for every 100 bachelor's degrees awarded to men," according to Mark Perry, an economist at the University of Michigan in Flint. "The gap is even wider at the master's level, with women trumping men 150 to 100," he said.


From Christina Hoff Summers:

Baseless Bias and the New Second Sex


Members of Congress who are concerned about gender equity should take a look at what is happening in the academy as a whole. University of Michigan economist Mark Perry, using Department of Education data, has prepared this useful chart:

Sommers Graph

Perry shows that men are now on the wrong side of the degree gap at every stage of education. Here are his figures for the class of 2009:

Associate’s degrees: 167 for women for every 100 for men.

Bachelor’s degrees: 142 for women for every 100 for men.

Master’s degrees: 159 for women for every 100 for men.

Professional degrees: 104 for women for every 100 for men.

Doctoral degrees: 107 for women for every 100 for men.

Degrees at all levels: 148 for women for every 100 for men.

Education Department projections though 2017 show a worsening picture for men with every passing year. If there is a crisis in the academy that merits a congressional investigation, it is not that women Ph.D.s are being shortchanged in math and science hiring and tenure committees, for that is not true. It is that men are quickly becoming the second sex in American education.








By Winifred Robinson

Last updated at 1:06 AM on 08th August 2009


As one of six daughters growing up in the Seventies, girls were so little prized compared with boys that a friend of my father even expressed his sympathy rather than congratulations when my youngest sister, a perfectly healthy child, was born.

Can you imagine that happening now? I rather doubt it. In an almost complete reversal of attitudes, today's parents long for girls.

As the mother of an only child, a son, I do not think I am exaggerating in saying that I detected something akin to sympathy when we announced that we had a boy.

Girls are outperforming boys at every level in education

New gender gap: Girls today are outperforming boys at every level in education

People may be more tactful these days, but there were expressions of regret that we would not be able to buy 'all those pretty pink baby clothes', and at least one close relative who sighed: 'I always thought you'd have a girl.'

At the heart of this new preference lies the fact that all parents want their children to succeed in life - and quite simply, in today's Britain, girls are more likely so to do.

Building on a trend that began more than a decade ago, girls are outperforming boys at every level in education. They get more and better GCSEs and A-levels, win more places at top universities and gain better degrees.

Although poor attainment is concentrated in the lower income groups, the gender gap persists to the detriment of boys across all social classes and ethnic groups. And as this week's dismal primary school test results reveal, boys are sinking farther and farther behind.

A depressing 40 per cent of boys will begin secondary school unable to write fluently and correctly, compared with 25 per cent of girls. How can this be happening?

'The very nature of GCSEs puts boys at a disadvantage'
___________________

It is to our shame that the reasons for boys' underachievement are so well researched and documented that they are no longer regarded as controversial, even among the education establishment. And yet still the reasons persist.

Boys' educational achievement began to lag behind girls from the late Eighties - around the time GCSEs replaced O-levels. There were warnings that the new qualification, with its emphasis on course work rather than final exams, would favour girls - and so it has proved.

Teenage girls tend to be more conscientious and dedicated to long-term projects, while boys are better at cramming and thrive in the adrenaline-fuelled arena of the exam.

If any doubt remained, it was cast aside in a study published in June by the prestigious Higher Education Policy Institute. It cited the GCSE as the 'most likely cause' of the gender equality gap in higher education.

The report cites the style of teaching, content and questions at GCSE, which trigger an educational disadvantage among boys compared to girls, which lingers through to A-levels and beyond.

Those results have an inevitable impact on further education. Girls have all but reached the government target of 50 per cent going on from school to study for a degree, while boys are way behind at 38 per cent.

Answering counter-claims that the introduction of GCSE and the continued relatively poor performance of boys is just a coincidence, the study points out that in research by the Organisation For Economic Co-operation And Development, where more than 13,000 15-year-olds sat what might be termed 'traditional' tests, girls scored better in reading, while boys achieved more correct answers in maths and science.

When the same pupils sat GCSEs, however, the girls did better in all subjects.

Masters students graduate at the Royal Albert Hall in London. The educational disadvantage lingers through to A-levels and beyond, a report has found

Consistent deficit: Masters students graduate at the Royal Albert Hall. The educational disadvantage lingers through to A-levels and beyond, a report claims

'I think GCSEs look as if they are to blame,' argued the institute's director, Bahram Bekhradnia. 'And if there is a suggestion that the nature of GCSEs is putting boys at a disadvantage and meaning that they do less well in school, then that needs to be dealt with, because these kids are missing out.'

But it has not been dealt with, and neither has the other crucial factor which helps convince many boys - long before GCSEs loom - that study is not for them. It is the near total absence of male teachers in primary schools.

One in four primaries in England has not a single man on the staff, although there is little disagreement among educationists that male primary teachers can have a powerful and positive impact on children, particularly boys.

Boys benefit from a male teacher reading and writing with them.

In a poll carried out last year for the Training And Development Agency For Schools, more than a third of boys said they felt that having a male primary teacher challenged them to work harder at school.

Around half said they were more likely to have asked a male teacher for help over bullying or problems with school work.

Another large-scale study, carried out for the Government by academics at Cambridge University, identified the need for male role models, not only as teachers, but as visiting speakers and volunteers in school. Without them, too many boys reject learning as 'for sissies' and 'uncool'.

'In one in four primaries, there are no male staff'
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It is a situation that the national body responsible for training teachers - the Training And Development Agency For Schools - says it is working hard to remedy. Yet the number of male applicants for primary school training remains at a pitifully low 15 per cent.

Experienced teachers will privately admit that the predominance of women is influencing teaching styles to the detriment of boys. Take English, where teachers will quite naturally opt for texts they themselves have enjoyed.

In some instances, these will be a complete turn-off for the boys in the class.

In one research experiment, children completed two comprehension tests, reading extracts and answering questions. The passages were very different: one a description of a spider, the other a piece about the feelings of a child forced to flee war-torn Europe. The boys scored better with the spider, the girls with the child refugee.

The fact is that boys are not captivated by stories about relationships and emotions. Like many mothers, I learned this lesson from my son, Tony, who glazed over with boredom when I tried reading aloud The Velveteen Rabbit, a childhood favourite of mine that can still move me to tears. He prefers humour - the more lavatorial the better - and adventure.

Of course, good schools understand and are sensitive to boys' tastes in books. At our village primary, Tony has reached the required grade in English a year early, but I know from friends - some of whose children are being taught in private schools - that this is not always the case.

Yes, it is true that boys and girls have always developed at different rates: little girls start school with a natural advantage in speech and in what the experts call the 'fine motor movements', crucial in holding a pen.

But where in the past it was recognised that boys completely catch up by the final years of primary school, and put on an intellectual spurt in late adolescence that places them on a par with girls, too often these days the initial disadvantage becomes permanent.

Playing fields have been sold off and stripped boys of the opportunity to exercise

Pent-up energy: Playing fields have been sold off and stripped boys of the opportunity to exercise

All schools - state and private - now concentrate on results from the earliest stages of education. So boys who start slowly can be left behind in classes that are pushing ahead to get the most from the best pupils, mainly the girls.

Where once small boys might have been encouraged to play in the early years, these days they can be forced to join in lessons completely beyond them.

A neighbour whose six-year-old was at a private school and unable to read was astonished to find him being sent home to study complex spellings which would be later tested in class.

When she complained, she was told that there were girls who could manage them easily, and if her son could not keep up, she should move him to a different school.

Boys also suffer in today’s results-driven classrooms because of their sheer physical energy. Many have to burn off great natural reserves of energy before they can settle down to anything quiet - be it study or sleep.

As a new mother, it came as a huge shock to me when Tony wailed to be out of his pram as soon as he could walk.

As a toddler, he demanded to go to the park in all weathers. Without exercise he would be hurling himself off the sofas at the end of the day. We used to joke that, like a labrador, he must be walked or he would chew the furniture.

In many homes, a little boy’s need for exercise is regarded as, at best, a nuisance and, at worst, an illness called ‘hyperactivity’ to be ‘cured’ with drugs which act as a chemical cosh.

In schools, these needs often simply cannot be met because playing fields have been sold off and playgrounds are too small to accommodate games of football, rugby or cricket.

And as the mother of a son, I fervently believe that underlying every factor contributing to boys’ underachievement in education is a collective failure to understand, recognise and value the qualities that are distinctly male.

As Michael Gurian - a therapist and author who has pioneered efforts to use brain research to understand the social and emotional needs of children - puts it, a generation of boys has been failed by us all.

‘We have been in the decade of the girl,’ says Gurian, whose new book, The Purpose Of Boys, was published in June.

‘Communities, families and schools have focused on studying, understanding and valuing what girls need in the new millennium. But in doing that, they failed to give boys any direction in life.

‘As an advocate for boys, I see a world in which boys are asking us every day, and mainly through their actions: “What is the purpose of boys?” And for the most part, our culture is answering: “We don’t know.” ’

'To our shame, we simply don't appreciate boys'
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In the days when all young men might have been called on to fight, it was easy to answer the question: ‘What are boys for?’ Boys were for courage and honour; for protecting the weak against the strong.

I will never forget the letter a close friend shared with me. It was sent to her husband while he was serving in World War II, preparing for the D-Day landings, and was from his father.

‘Son, I am proud of you,’ it reads. ‘Always be brave and true.’ Later in the same note there is advice on how to behave with women: ‘Never forget your own dear sister, and try to treat women as you would like her to be treated.’

Today, such values may seem ‘old-fashioned' and ‘out of touch’. But when I see my son play-fighting with his friends, I can detect the willingness to brush off hurts, the good humour and, when much smaller boys are playing, the protectiveness that demonstrates all the best of the difference in men.

They have always been a part of the male character - and they always will be.

As mothers, it is surely to our shame that we do not sit and laugh together and appreciate our boys in the way we praise the quiet, cooperative play of our girls.

Imagine for a moment the outcry that would follow - from parents, politicians, the teaching unions - if girls began to lag behind boys in school.

Yet there is a widespread silence on the very real problem of boys’ underachievement, as though by raising it we are somehow anti-women.

Some education specialists even ask if it matters - as though boys’ failure is the natural downside to women’s greater success; as if the current situation represents some kind of natural order where women must go beyond equality and always come out on top.

Of course it matters, just as it mattered 30 years ago when fewer girls than boys made it to university. It matters because it is unjust, and it matters because it is a shameful waste of talent and one that we can ill-afford.

As someone who has benefitted enormously from the women’s movement, I deplore the prospect of a generation of disadvantaged young men failing to reach their true potential and missing out on university and the chances it brings.

We all gain from a better educated population - in greater prosperity, better health, better relationships, better child-rearing. We should all be worried by the prospect of an army of undereducated and alienated men.

And if we continue to ignore the yawning gender achievement gap in our schools, then we will all suffer as a result.


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Friday, August 7, 2009

'Vile lies' of woman jailed after driving ex-boyfriend to brink of suicide by accusing him of rape

By Andy Dolan
Last updated at 2:37 AM on 25th July 2009

Andrew Tutty

Andrew Tutty: He was also suspended from his job over the false rape claim

A woman who falsely accused her ex-boyfriend of rape when he broke off their relationship was jailed yesterday for her 'vile lies'.

Louise Johnson, 37, drove Andrew Tutty to the brink of suicide after he was arrested and suspended from his job.

After accusing the care worker of the rape, Johnson then took out an injunction against her former lover whom she claimed was continuing to harass her.

The mother-of-one then contacted police again to claim Mr Tutty had turned up at her home with a knife, ordered her to strip and then threatened to rape her.

Yesterday a judge told Johnson she was guilty of telling 'lies of the most vile kind' as Mr Tutty told of the 'devastating' impact of the case on his life.

The 41-year-old was arrested twice, had his DNA swabbed and spent two-and-a-half months on police bail until he was able to prove his innocence when CCTV proved he was with his son at a train station 160 miles away when Johnson claimed he turned up at her home with the knife.

Mr Tutty, from Dudley, West Midlands, said: 'I couldn't believe it when I was arrested by the police. It was devastating - especially as I was suspended from my job over it.

'It has been a long slow two years during which my name has been dragged through the mud. I have been through hell.

'It has been a nightmare and I would not be on this earth if it had not been for the support of friends and family. I would be six feet under.'

The couple met through their jobs as carers at a residential care home for disturbed young people.

They had only been going out for two months before Mr Tutty ended the relationship in March 2007.

Alka Brigue, prosecuting, said Johnson took Mr Tutty's decision to finish the relationship 'very badly'.

He was first arrested on suspicion of rape in July 2007. Johnson claimed he had forced her to perform a sex act on him but the incident never took place.

The following month Johnson took out the injunction and a short time later Mr Tutty was arrested again after she claimed that, armed with the knife, he arrived at her home in Tividale, West Midlands, ordered her to strip and threatened to rape her.

Miss Brigue said: 'Johnson claimed he turned up at her home and assaulted her. He took clothes off and attempted to rape her.

'She said there were blows to various parts of her body from his hands and fists. He also brandished a knife.'

Wolverhampton Crown Court heard at that precise time Mr Tutty had been filmed on CCTV boarding a train in Gosport, Hampshire, with his son.

In a victim impact statement filed with the court, Mr Tutty described how Johnson's lies caused him 'considerable distress and discomfort'.

He has since been reinstated to his job.

Johnson then complained she had received a string of text messages from Mr Tutty and that he had again assaulted her but, at the time, he had been attending his mother's 67th birthday party before going straight to work.

Analysis of Johnson's phone suggested she had sent the messages herself, a source said.

The court heard Johnson had made a string of allegations against other people over the previous 12 years.

It is understood she had accused a man of raping her in 2005, although charges were never proceeded with.

The court heard Johnson suffered from a personality disorder.

Samantha Powis, defending, said Johnson had suffered from abuse as a child. Her alleged tormentor was acquitted after a trial.

Miss Powis said Johnson 'accepts these were gravely serious allegations and they not only undermined him but those who make genuine complaints.'

Johnson admitted perverting the course of justice. Judge Nicholas Syfret QC told her the two arrests had a 'huge impact' on the life of Mr Tutty.

Jailing her for 18 months, Judge Syfret said: 'He felt suicidal and it affected his work. These allegations were not only embarrassing but they meant he was suspended fromdoing his job.'

The judge said there were people who felt 'there is no smoke without fire' and, while he was completely innocent, they would believe there was some truth in the allegations.

'There was not a word of truth in what you said,' the Recorder told Johnson.

'A colossal strain was put on police resources while they investigated these complaints and you also undermined the causes of genuine people who had been the subject of serious complaints.'

He told her only a custodial sentence could be justified because the offence she had committed made it notoriously difficult for women who had been raped to get justice.


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The years spent getting legislation through for rape victims of both sexes but especially for Women and this creature belittles all of itbecause she was upet at her boyfriend splitting away from her. Its more than shameful and she should receive a much longer sentence for not only wasting police time but abusing this very important law. As part of her sentence they should take her to some of the refuges around the country and speak to the real victims of rape and abuse and make her if its possible ashamed of what she has done.

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If Mr. Tutty had been convicted of what she accused him of, he'd have been jailed for a lot longer than eighteen months.

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How many men she tried to destroyed?

Louise Johnson must stop ( but she is only 37). Indeed she is sick and needs help, therefore after prison I hope she's taken to a mental hospital - and freedom on her 80th birthday.

She doesn't care who she destroys, indeed vile!

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Her picture should be plastered all over the papers now that she has been found guilty, just like mr tuttys is, and the 18 month sentence (actually less than 9 months in real terms) is once again pathetic, but not unexpected.

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The sentence she received is far too short. She should also be made to see the real impact of people who have been raped. The people who cry rape are sick, because it makes it really hard to get justice for the people who have truly suffered at the hands of a rapist.

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she should have got longer to protect others and be made to pay him all she owns as recompense, which would then still be not enough.