Friday, October 23, 2009

'Where's mummy?': Babies left in filth as mother binged for 24 hours


By Liz Hull
Last updated at 1:54 AM on 23rd October 2009


  • Baby, aged three months, found crying with hunger
  • Boy, one, found in cot with no blanket, soaked in urine
  • Girl, four, had tried to feed her younger siblings
'Britain's worst mother' pictured outside Preston Crown Court today

'Britain's worst mother': The 22-year-old drank a bottle of wine and snorted coke before leaving her children

A single mother left her four young children including two babies home alone while she went on a 24-hour drink and drugs binge, a court heard.

Worried neighbours contacted police after seeing the woman's eldest child, a four-year-old girl, hanging out of a window crying: 'Where's mummy?'

The 22-year-old mother drank a bottle of wine and snorted cocaine with friends after putting her daughters, aged three and four, and their brothers, aged one and three months, to bed.

But soon afterwards she left the children to fend for themselves and went out to carry on drinking at a series of house parties and bars, not returning until 10.30pm the following day.

Police alerted by neighbours found the house littered with empty beer cans
and bottles and a scene of 'filth and disorder' inside.

They discovered the one-year-old boy in a urine-soaked cot in a bedroom on his own.

His younger brother was found crying in a travel cot, with no blankets, and with a soiled nappy.

He had dried milk and sick over his clothing and was grey, docile and dehydrated.

The three-year-old girl had managed to dress herself, while her older sister, who was the most distressed, had pushed chairs up against kitchen cupboards to try to reach some food because she was so hungry.

There were also children's footprints in baby milk powder on the floor where the oldest child had tried to mix a bottle feed for her younger brother.

Yesterday the mother, who cannot be named for legal reasons, was warned she faces jail after admitting four charges of child neglect.

She sat with her head bowed throughout the hearing at Preston Crown Court which was told that all four youngsters have since been taken into care and see their mother only on supervised visits.

Judge Norman Wright granted the woman bail while reports from social services are prepared. She will be sentenced next month.

An earlier hearing was told that the incident occurred in July after the woman, from Blackburn, put her children to bed in the early evening.

She drank a bottle of wine before a group of friends and strangers arrived. They carried on drinking and began snorting cocaine.

Leaving the children asleep upstairs, the woman then left with the group for another house party before moving on to several bars in Blackburn town centre. She eventually returned the following night.

Catherine Allen, prosecuting, told the earlier hearing before magistrates in Blackburn: 'The children had been trying to gain access to the cupboards because they were hungry.

'Inside the house there were empty cans, bottles, broken furniture and the kitchen knives could have been accessed. Any of the children could have been seriously injured or worse. They had no access to food or drink.'

One neighbour said last night that the community had been left 'deeply shocked' by the case.

'It must take the worst kind of mum in the country to do that to your kids,' the neighbour added.

The case comes days after figures released in the wake of the Baby P scandal revealed a shocking rise in child neglect.

Two serious case reviews - inquiries launched following the death of a child where abuse or neglect are suspected - have been launched every week over the past six months.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1222196/Britains-worst-mother-left-babies-toddlers-home-went-24-hour-drinking-binge.html#ixzz0UjDTKaEU

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

CSM Op-Ed Falls Flat with Claim that Family Courts Routinely Give Custody to Abusive Dads

My letter to the editor of the Christian Science Monitor:

Re: Christian Science Monitor, 10/14/09. Author Kathleen Russell

You allowed this author to publish unsubstantiated claims with respect to cases in Marin County Ca, and offering unsupported and erroneous information relating to a theory of abuse of children called Parental Alienation Syndrome.

I am guessing this was offered to the author as an opinion piece and was published without authentication by your editor. You will escape liability for slander on it because she didn't name names but one of the cases she obliquely refers to is well known involving the kidnapping by a so called protective parent of a child. This parent was subsequently arrested, jailed and tried but found to have personality related issues, which is not uncommon. She got a gender discount.

For future reference moms are the largest cohort of abusers and killers of children in the USA. They are also given sole custody of children in 84% of all cases in the USA. Ms. Russell's opinion which states otherwise is no more than that and is factually incorrect. Allegations of abuse are not proven facts of abuse. If allegations were the only criteria of proof most of the country would be in jail. I can easily cite you any number of allegations that are untrue and ought never be used to obfuscate the truth.

I am disappointed in your publication and frankly will have trouble believing anything that appears in it again.MJM

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Wednesday, October 21, 2009
By Robert Franklin, Esq.

They're baaaack. As if they'd ever left.

I refer to the anti-dad crowd whose latest shtick is to oppose children's rights to paternal access by claiming, against all the evidence, that fathers pose a unique danger to children. What actual social science shows is that mothers do far more (about twice as much) child injury than do fathers. That comes from the Department of Health and Human Services

Adminstration for Children and Families statistics on child injury and maltreatment, among others.

Still, that's the main thrust of the recent counter-attack on fathers' rights in Australia. This article is a special riff on the theme, though (Christian Science Monitor, 10/14/09). Author Kathleen Russell co-founded an anti-PAS organization in Marin County. Hers is another claim that family courts routinely ignore a parent's claims that the other parent is abusing a child in order to give custody to the abusive parent. But take even a passing whiff of that claim and it doesn't pass the smell test.

Why would a family court judge ignore well-founded evidence of child injury or sexual abuse and grant custody to the abuser? Uh, gee, I can't think of any reason.

The strong impression these people give is that it's pervasive bias against mothers by family courts. They seldom come right out and say it, but with books entitled "Divorced from Justice: The Abuse of Women and Children by Family Lawyers and Judges," not much is left to the imagination. To suggest that a system that gives custody to mothers 84% of the time and makes little effort to enforce the visitation orders of fathers is biased in favor of fathers, just doesn't cut the butter.

So where do those people get such a bizarre notion?

Well, they usually cite a single source - a study published in the May, 2000 issue of the Journal of Child Sexual Abuse by Ann Goetting and Amy Neustein. According to the website Stop Family Violence.com, the authors conclude that,

"In a study of more than 300 custody cases involving allegations of sexual abuse, 70 percent resulted in unsupervised visitation or shared custody with the alleged sexual abuser. And in 20 percent of cases, the nonviolent parent lost custody completely."

Oh. Those would be allegations of sexual abuse. Stated another way, in 70% of cases in which sexual abuse was alleged, family courts found that there was either no evidence thereof or insufficient evidence to deprive the child of its access to the target of the allegations.

But to the anti-dad crowd, all allegations of sexual abuse are true, at least when made against a father. And if they were, the study's findings would indeed be alarming. But neither the Goetting/Neustein study nor its advocates like Kathleen Russell make any effort to sort out whether the allegations were true or not.

The patently false notion that family courts routinely turn over children to sexual abusers, absurd on its face as it is, is rendered all the more so by the fact that its proponents have a hard time coming up with a single case which, on close examination, supports their claim. The Sadie Loeliger case, the Genia Schockome case, the Holly Collins case and others, are all examples, not of abusers getting custody, but of courts taking reams of testimony and concluding that in fact it was the mother claiming paternal abuse who was the dangerous parent. Indeed, study co-author Amy Neustein's is yet another case of exactly that phenomenon. I'll expound on that further in a future post.

If, as the Russell op-ed claims, there are 58,000 examples each and every year of sexual abusers getting custody, shouldn't the anti-father forces be able to come up with one that bears them out?

You'd think so, and to that end, Russell offers for our consideration the case of Jonea Rogers, a Petaluma, California woman who, so her story goes, sought the help of various law enforcement agencies in dealing with her allegedly abusive ex-husband (or maybe his father), only to be rebuffed at every turn. Rogers then fled with their daughter to various foreign countries. Once caught, the child was returned to the father, Ian Stone, and Rogers was jailed for violating the court order setting out the father's rights.

A Marin County jury acquitted Rogers of violating the court's order apparently convinced that she acted without the requisite state of mind necessary for conviction. Astonishingly enough, Russell would have her readers believe that the failure to convict Rogers of the criminal charge means that Stone in fact sexually abused his daughter. Needless to say, the jury found no such thing and their acquittal means no such thing.

And by the way, Stone still has custody.

So far, the nitty-gritty on the Rogers case comes strictly from a few newspaper articles like this one (Marin Independent Journal, 8/10/06) and this one (Marin Independent Journal, 8/8/06). But it's enough to strongly suggest that we can add it to the list of cases in which, contrary to the bleats of the anti-dad crowd, the mother who cries "abuse" and kidnaps the child is in fact just trying to deprive a hated ex of his child.

Consider the ease with which temporary restraining orders are obtained on little or no evidence in custody cases. Did she get one? Did she try? The articles don't say so.

Consider the fact that a variety of law enforcement officials investigated her claims over several months, but found no evidence of abuse.

Consider the fact that Child Protective Services likewise investigated Rogers' claims but found no evidence of abuse.

Consider that what Rogers was doing was so obvious to one of Marin County's sheriff's deputies that he told Ian Stone that Rogers was "setting him up" and that he should hire a lawyer.

Consider that no article makes any mention of medical evidence that the child had been injured or abused.

Consider that Rogers planned the abduction and getaway over the course of many months, secretly selling her house and small business in the process. Are those the actions of a mother who is so panicked about the sexual abuse of her child that she needs to flee immediately?

And finally consider that the child has been living with Ian Stone ever since Rogers was jailed in 2004 and is now at least 12 years old. If he sexually abused her before, he's surely done so since. Where are the charges by enraged law enforcement and prosecutors? Why doesn't Rogers renew her efforts to have him charged and get custody of the girl? And of course, what does the girl herself say?

If Russell and the others who are determined to keep children from their fathers at any cost, even that of the truth, are so sure that Stone is a child sexual abuser, what are there answers to these many questions?

And why was Russell so careful in writing her op-ed as to avoid even naming Ian Stone or making any statement that could be construed as libelous or defamatory?

I think I know. Based on their performance in other cases, their claims in the Rogers case are as threadbare as they've been in countless others. And that pretty much sums up their whole cause against fathers and their children - threadbare.


http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=4308

Barbara Kay: Boy-hating is in

Posted: October 21, 2009, 3:00 PM by NP Editor

As my first-born was a boy, I quite reasonably hoped for a girl the second time around. In my technologically antediluvian era, one discovered one’s child’s sex upon delivery. So the long gestational lull was filled with suspense and a good deal of base-covering hypocrisy: “Oh, I don’t care really, as long as it’s healthy” and “Brothers are so cute together!”

Needless to say, when informed I had produced a girl, I gave way to honest emotion and ’fessed up to great joy. I’d realized my tidy fantasy — as the old song goes, “a boy for you and a girl for me.” But had I delivered a second boy, there would still have been joy, and brothers really are cute together...

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Dr. Elizabeth Celi on Men's Health Issues in Austrlia

Dr. Celi has just returned from a men's health conference and discusses issues on Australian TV program 9AM with David and Kim. Dr. Celi's website is here and on Twitter here.



This is the original link to the 9am website

http://9am.ten.com.au/video.htm?vxSiteId=4a40990c-a06c-401b-8663-6f890bb8f3dc&vxChannel=9am%20General%20Health&vxClipId=1427_9am793-lg6-180609&vxBitrate=300&CMP=LEC-DANCEgetVideoLink

Monday, October 19, 2009

In OZ ~ Spotlight on shared parenting laws




Caroline Overington | October 20, 2009

Article from: The Australian

IF you are a separated parent, and your children are living in a shared-care arrangement with your former spouse, who should pay for their school uniforms?

Who should pay for the travel between the two homes?

Who should pay for the annual beach holiday? Is it only the person who goes with the children or should the cost be split between both parents, if that's the only holiday the children will have?

These are some of the questions from a federal government survey of separated parents in shared parenting agreements.

The study, Survey of Shared Care Arrangements for Children after Divorce or Separation, is designed to ascertain exactly how shared parenting is working by quizzing those parents who have entered into such agreements, either willingly, or by order of the Family Court.

The survey seeks to discover how well the arrangements work for parents and children.

The study is funded by the Attorney-General's Department, but the research is being conducted independently of government by researchers from the University of Sydney, the University of NSW and the Australian Institute of Family Studies.

The Howard government passed shared-care legislation late in 2006. It requires the Family Court to presume that the best interests of children are met by having a relationship with both parents after separation, unless there is violence.

The shared-parenting laws have made it more difficult for parents to relocate after separation. They have come in for harsh criticism from Family Court lawyers, and by others at the coalface of family law.

Six separate reviews of the law are under way, with change expected by the end of the year.

In order to recruit separated parents to the survey, researchers have contacted divorce lawyers, seeking clients who may be willing to take part.

"We'd like to ask you some questions about what arrangements you have and how well they work for you and the children," the survey says.

"The research will help the Attorney-General's Department in deciding whether any changes need to be made in the law."

The survey starts by asking the basics: age, gender, and how long have you been separated from your ex-partner?

It asks separated parents to explain how they came to the current arrangements with their children. Did they reach an agreement on shared care with the help of lawyer or did a judge or magistrate set out the terms?

It asks whether shared parenting is what they wanted and, if not, what arrangement they would have preferred, including "child live with me all the time".

Researchers also want to know how much of a say the children had in the arrangements now in place, and the survey asks whether the arrangement has held, or failed, and why.

Parents are asked whether they believe the other parent is bearing their fair share of the costs, and how often they disagree with their ex-partner about basic child-rearing issues.

"Can you talk to your former partner about child-related issues?" it asks.


http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,26233727-2702,00.html

The Australian ~ Real sharing the key

This is the first time I've seen something quite this balanced in this newspaper publication on the Australian amendments to their 1975 Family Law act, entitled the Shared Parental Responsibility Act (2006). Good on them.MJM





October 20, 2009

Article from: The Australian

Parenting rules must be addressed, not dumped

WHEN about 40 per cent of Australian marriages end in divorce, it is not feasible to entertain any return to past practice on custody arrangements, under which women were perceived to have the first claim on their children.

Not feasible, and not fair. It has always been the case that fathers have equal rights - and responsibilities - in the care of their children. But if there was any doubt about this, the enormous social changes of the past 20 or 30 years mean that fathers cannot be sidelined in Family Court matters. With men required by both law and social expectations to play an active, key role in the financing and parenting of children, it would be absurd to deny them equal access when their marriages end.

But there are emerging problems with the shared parenting law introduced by the Howard government in 2006. The requirement that Family Court judges decide access arrangements based on the presumed value of shared parenting except in abusive or violent situations has created some unhappy outcomes. At the extreme, shared parenting has meant babies shuffled across town so that mothers can breastfeed and fathers can change nappies. As The Australian reported yesterday, there are claims that cynical fathers are demanding more access not because they want to share parenting but because this means they can reduce the support money paid to their former wives for the care of children.

None of this is a real surprise to the architects of shared parenting rules: the Howard government knew that the new system would have to be tested and possibly refined. It built in a mandatory review after three years of operation and that review - along with five other inquiries - is nearing completion. Changes seem likely in this area, which is so fraught and so potentially dangerous for children, given the passion among parents who consider they have been wronged by decisions. The stakes are high, and no government can hope to devise perfect outcomes. But government has a responsibility to the children caught in the middle of divorces. Our politicians must create a policy framework that offers the best possible living situations for children.

Any changes to shared parenting rules should restate the primacy of children's wellbeing, while addressing the prescriptive nature of the law. It may be that Family Court judges should be given some scope to judge individual cases within a strict framework that continues to be dominated by the right to shared parenting. It is vital that in both perception and practice, fathers are not shortchanged by the system. There can be no return to the past, but it may be time for judges to have more freedom to interpret shared parenting when it is clear a black-letter law approach could harm the child.

Divorce is deeply saddening to adults and children alike, but the vast majority of families find a way out of the dark times and create strong, flexible arrangements under which parents and children can rebuild and flourish. Only a small proportion of cases are fought over in court, and of these fewer still are intractable.

Laws that are clear and compassionate are needed to deal with the cases that cannot be resolved by the parties. These rules also create a climate of expectation about how all parents should behave in access issues. In this sense, they create parameters society considers fair for children as well as for parents. It is for this reason, too, that the government must ensure it gets the shared parenting rules right.

http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,26232403-16382,00.html